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14 sats \ 3 replies \ @cryotosensei 3 Jan \ on: Do Routines Lead to the Quiet Desperation of Life? FiresidePhilosophy
My MBTI is ENFP, so my novelty fun-seeking self makes me disdainful of routine. I’m the kind who needs to inject stimulus into my life and shake things up.
This is precisely why I struggle so much with parenthood. It is rewarding n stuff, but it is neither freedom nor fun. I hate that I have to rush back home every day after work. In a child-free era, I could paint the town red 2-3 times a week.
I’m coping better, I guess. In fact, after school dismisses at 12.30pm, I will go straight to sing two hours of karaoke with a friend haha
I’m not sure whether this constitutes a higher purpose, but I am very determined to work on my blog until I can withdraw $150 from Google Adsense. I see it as a manifestation of my identity
do you think with no kids (ever), you would get bored with painting the town red all the time? friends gradually disappear as they start families etc.
i know a few forever single guys this happens to and they express a feeling that everyone is moving on with their life, hitting various milestones and they just remain the same, always looking for someone new to party with
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Well there is travel. I am envious of my single friends who can take on overseas trips for work or for leisure at the drop of a hat. I think it depends on how intentional the individual is about crafting his life
Again, I am the kind who needs to satisfy my wanderlust. And travelling with my kids is just different haha
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travel is a big one yeah, i traveled a ton in my 20s in my single days, or holidays with GFs etc, trips with the boys, great stuff. I do envey those that can hop on on a trip, then again, most of my friends are also chained down lol
but as you say, with kids, for me, travel is just not enjoyable and just stressful, constantly on alert and my wife is a nightmare over-packer. so for me, i prefer little domestic holidays, driving to different cities.
meanwhile, my cousin and her husband travel all the time with their kids, she had a 3-month-old newborn and they were off traveling somewhere. which, personally to me, is my idea of actual hell (and not very responsible IMO), but there you go :)
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