436 sats \ 11 replies \ @k00b 23 Sep 2023 \ on: What starves you of energy? meta
- asymmetrical gossip, ie social duplicity
- the deluded or people seeking to delude
- extreme askers
- unconscious competition
This list speaks to me. Each and every one of these items
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It's basically a list of social vampire traits lol. They suck the marrow from introverts like no other.
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What do you mean by asymmetrical gossip?
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what this is
Oh um broadly people representing how they feel about you/other people very differently depending on the context. But the pathological form is a kind of whisper attack where people try to turn people's opinions about you negative while pretending to be friendly.
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lol whisper attack is term I just made up
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askers vs guessers is very interesting. I've never seen this concept formalized before
Yes, very good to know that this concept exists. @nout explained it well to me in terms of European culture (ask) vs American culture (guess)
I am definitely an asker born into an (imo) extreme guess culture since my parents are from Asia. I think that's why I became an asker.
I just hope me and @k00b never collide (at least not too much) because of this :)
I think it's just a balance of thinking enough beforehand what is reasonable to ask ("to guess") and being straightforward ("to ask").
/me wonders what this is though?
me wonders too
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I wouldn't classify you as an asker. The type of askers that I collide with do so to conserve their energy at the expense of everyone else. Your kind of asking is mostly curiosity.
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In the end it's hard to find a single word for the whole culture of communication, so I wouldn't over index on the name.
It's a good idea to first think "I wonder if he said that because of his background and culture" instead of "what an asshole".
Sometimes it's the former sometimes it's the latter.
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