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I think I might be getting catfished here by a scammer. Some girl off a dating site, wanted to come visit for her birthday. Spend the last few weeks talking to me. I decided to be a nice human and sent her some $ for gas and some new tires her friend was going to sell her.
I sent 111.00.
Tells me today the tires are gone, (sold to someone else), and she's instead spent 75$ on one new tire, and kept 20$ for gas, minus spending 5 or so on something to eat when she went out to do the tire thing.

and yet, and here is my question She says she withdrew the money from a coinflip ATM. but, the money is still showing on blockchain explorer, blockcypher, and blockchair, as being in her bitcoin account, in full.
She is now asking for more money to finish getting the tires fixed, and says her and her mom will pay me back on the 5th.
**Shouldn't a transaction on the network be confirmed within about half an hour, forty minutes, especially if it's a withdrawl of 100$?), her account says the whole thing is still there.
So I'm thinking this is a catfish/scammer/some kind of nefarious bolsh.
what yall think?
It sounds like you're getting scammed. Regardless, you should block her and save yourself.
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it eventually cleared, but the whole thing still leaves me not wanting her to come visit. sucks, but it's better to avoid a large headache trying to get a nightmare to leave, than to have this afore the entire thing.
thanks, appreciate the nod in the commonsense direction.
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Again, it’s most likely a scam. It doesn’t matter if it cleared. She was never coming anyway.
Don’t let the scammer fool you twice.
(Sorry just wanted to reiterate because it sounded like you were falling back into the whatif fantasies)
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hey, no need for sorry, at all!
That's what I'd ultimately decided, after praying about the matter, during yesterday and in the evening before bed. It was all a pipe dream, and was never going to be a thing. It'd have just been "I need more money because this went wrong, etc - " untoward seeing how far one was willing to go.
an hour ago I politely told her off, and closed the chat.
thanks again man.
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110 sats \ 1 reply \ @k00b 2 Sep 2023
I’m glad you figured it out.
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ty. cheers :)
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