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While there is hope there is a chance. It can be hard to find, impossible to summon and elusive to hold on to but worth the fight.
6-weeks fiat worth of groceries is still 42 days to go on. Just keep at it.
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So you are fuelling yourself. It shouldn’t just be a case of eking out what you have but also getting in a position to support yourself better. I defer to the skills question as to where ti go from here.
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Your situation is indeed challenging, and your feelings of frustration and concern are entirely valid. It's clear that you have strong skills, enjoy working with others, and have faced unexpected setbacks in your job search. Let's take your specific experiences and thoughts into consideration and provide some options you may explore:
  1. Interview Analysis and Follow-Up:
    • Consider Objective Interview Feedback: Since your interviews generally go well, you may benefit from seeking professional feedback to pinpoint any unnoticed areas for improvement.
    • Strengthen Post-Interview Communication: Given your experience in the applicant tracking system, you understand the importance of organized hiring pipelines. Implement a consistent follow-up routine after interviews to re-emphasize your interest and maintain engagement.
    • Reflect on Positive Past Interactions: Your ability to build relationships even with past customers in interviews is a great asset. Leverage these connections where applicable.
  2. Resume and Application Enhancement:
    • Highlight Your Versatility: Your work in various roles, including teaching hiring managers about candidate pipelines, demonstrates your adaptability and insight. This expertise is valuable and should be prominently featured.
    • Leverage Past Relationships: If possible, reach out to past contacts like the hiring manager who recognized you. They may have other opportunities or connections that could be beneficial.
  3. Personal Well-being and Support:
    • Address Financial Concerns: Since you're facing significant medical expenses and limited resources, exploring local support services or non-profit organizations that provide assistance with medical bills might relieve some pressure.
    • Build a Support Network: Your realization about the importance of a support network is insightful. Consider joining community groups or forums related to your interests and situation. Sometimes, building connections with others in similar circumstances can provide emotional support.
    • Set Realistic Goals and Expectations: Your past experiences with job loss and housing instability are certainly traumatic. By breaking down your job search into manageable goals and focusing on immediate needs, you may find it easier to navigate through this complex period.
Your detailed description paints a vivid picture of your resilience, capabilities, and current challenges. By tailoring your strategies to leverage your strengths, such as relationship-building and in-depth knowledge of hiring processes, while also focusing on practical support for your immediate needs, I hope you'll find a path forward that aligns with your skills and aspirations. If possible, seeking professional assistance such as career counseling or mental health support may also provide a valuable perspective tailored to your unique situation.
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^ great advice ^
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Bro you're doing a lot better than a lot of people. I was thrown into homelessness at no fault of my own because the person I was renting from/who also was my roommate told me they owned the home but they didn't, and they were renting it themselves and didn't pay the actual landlord for four months. Woke up one day to a seven day notice to get out or come up with 4500 bucks. This dude had been going to court behind my back too for months trying to figure some way for the state or some rent assistance program to help but couldn't find anything. Found this all out after he split and left town i think? The actual landlord who owned the home felt bad for me but wouldn't help me out unless i came up with the 4500. Which obviously i couldn't.
not trying to say your situation doesn't suck, because it does, but let me tell you as someone who has lived homelessness and been forced to stay at a homeless shelter for a few months, sell your fucking bitcoin and keep yourself out of that. I'm serious. The experience caused my mental illness of anxiety and depression to spiral out of control. Add the bed bugs and body lice I had to endure on a daily basis and it truly made me go crazy. To this day i am still scared to sit down anywhere in public, and i check the cushions in between them in anything i go to sit in if i'm in public with the flashlight on my phone first. I ended up bringing bed bugs from the homeless shelter to my mom's house too and she had to shell out 5000 bucks to get rid of them and it caused our relationship to completely go south and we had always been a team and been close...
Do not put yourself in that situation. Sell. Trust me dude.
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This is the best video i have found on bed bugs.
Basicly get a hand held steamer and pass everything under it every once in a while.
Lice can be killed by dunking the head in rubbing alchohol, twice a week for a few weeks ( to kill them after the hatch but before they can lay new eggs.) It's tricky to do without hurting your eyes but not impossible.
The treatments and pest control are scams. Either you are in a situation where Diatomaceous earth and steaming will kill them or you have people who keep bringing them in, and nothing will permanently stop it, making it an ongoing battle.
Bed bug psychosis is a thing. So knowing what the above video shows in scientific way is reassuring. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00038-015-0713-8
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I actually went through bed bug psychosis I think and still am tramuatized from my experience with it. I did so much fucking research on bed bugs and body lice and other ectoparasites that can seriously cause damage to humans like rat mites, and batbugs (bed bug cousins, can barely tell the difference without a microscope) that I could pass college level courses on them easily. It hurt me in the long run doing that though and I fully believe it caused a lot of my mental health issues regarding being ocnstantly worried and having PTSD about catching them again. And in regards to dipping your head in alcohol for lice. Yes, that's head lice. Head lice are easy to get rid of though with over the counter or prescription hair lice medicine. The issue lies with people not washing their bedding/pillows/everything your hair touched afterwards because they can survive without a host for 2 days to three days. Body lice are relatively easy to get rid of as well but once again the issue lies with you have to wash your clothing (They live in clothing but move to the body to feed on you) and everything your clothing and you came into contact with in water over 140 degrees farenheight. If that's impossible almost any dryer, especially the industrial ones on the highest heat setting for a half hour will kill any and every ectoparasite there is including bed bugs. But body lice are actually more of an issue to get rid of because they will live in furniture and your bed similar to bed bugs. unlike bed bugs though, they need to feed every two to three days as well so it needs to be a piece of furniture that sees a lot of activity. Public lice are the worst ones by far because those can infest your whole fucking body and you need prescription premethin cream to get rid of them.
Fun fact though, did you know the three different lices actually are biologically separate? They evolved on completely different paths, look it up! Just their traits and abilities are so perfect for what they need to survive that science and biology evolved them all to be so incredibly similar.
Not trying to scare anybody but the three most common places to pick up bed bugs are obviously hotels, libraries are #2 on the list, and public transportation is #3 on the list.
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fucking xenomorphs. wow
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I have the same feelings emotionally and mentally..I still have no one in my corner for emotional support and I spent years and years when I had my own place before the place i got evicted from, letting my so called friends come over and vent their problems. I would cook for them, let them and their couch surfing asses stay in my extra bedroom/on the extra bed, and be their emotional support. No one was willing to return any of that at all when I wnet through what I did and that's what hurt the most. Honestly if you do end up on the streets, and you are having mental health issues, just go to your local county mental health authority or the ER and tell them you're suicidal and they'll throw you in either a crisis residential group home (they're like houses) or a psych hospital (those aren't actually as bad as they get the rep for being.) for a couple weeks. I pulled this a couple times when I couldn't stand the bed bugs and body lice at the homeless shelter anymore and they're actually really nice mini vacations. At the group homes they let you have your phone/laptop/smoke cigs outside at least here they do, but at the psych hospitals they take your electronics and they just give you a patch, that was the worst part, not being able to smoke cigs tbh. The food is decent and the staff for the most part is really nice and helpful. And I learned a lot of things from the groups at both the group homes and hospitals that helped me and still help me to this day. Hang in there brother.
Also, don't be ashamed to reach out to government programs for help. This is exactly what they're there for and why they are essential to society. In some areas of the country you can get right into a section eight housing or free housing (in an apartment/rental) for so long immediately if your area isn't experiencing a housing crisis. Unfortunately, most areas are and the waiting lists are extensive. But if i were you the first thing I'd do is apply for food stamps.
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Take a shit job in the meantime. Do what you have to do.
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You got this. maybe call your old friends and family, there are a lot of extra couches out there.
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im very sorry about that, perhaps you could tell your parents about the threat to your safety due to that person and forbid them from going to your parents house while you live with them?
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Well sounds like you should have a talk with your parents.
Also no one needs credit. Just start saving whatever percentage you can each paycheck in Bitcoin and fix the house after the halving.
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What sort of skills do you have?
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Good question, following ^
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It seems to me, and I am happy to be corrected, that some interview coaching would be a good idea. Being good (and trainable/coachable) at a job rarely come across well at generic interviews. You can do it for free via YouTube.
Look at Saylor Academy for some course to round out your skills / communication. It shows you are open to learning and recognise there are skills you want to work on - and are prepared to - in your own time.
I work minimum wage in manual labour - it is destroying my body and my mind - please take it as a cautionary tale. Semi-skilled is preferable .
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It’s part numbers game and part of the ‘face fits’. The labour market is cooling a little and they recruiters / hirers have so many competing demands on who and if to hire. Keep at it and try and keep that positive (it’s all a learning experience) outlook
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