> when I was struggling as a young person I had my "if only" lists. Once you achieved a goal, there was always another one right around the corner to be anxious about. That is suffering.

Yes so much. I used to believe that _if only_ I had a girlfriend, all my problems would be solved.

Turned out that's not true at all hahaha

Now I believe that nobody is going to come and save us, we need to save ourselves

Highly related. What's the training, then? A more Buddhist attitude about wanting and striving?

I've always wondered at that and felt some tension: is transcending suffering the same as getting good at it?

elvismercury

mostly_harmless

The right real suffering

I'm not sure it's the same thing, but when I was struggling as a young person I had my "if only" lists. Once you achieved a goal, there was always another one right around the corner to be anxious about. That is suffering.

I think of Bob Dylan's "When I Paint My Masterpiece:
https://youtu.be/QElRIP-r9l4

The line "someday everything's gonna be different, when I paint my masterpiece."
