Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing so openly about yourself.

If I may illustrate what I think with a case study that is close to my heart, my younger brother and his wife have been married for at least five years. All this while, my sister-in-law has maintained that she doesn’t want kids. And it’s obvious because she looked visibly uncomfortable when she held my baby.

However, it seems that she has had a change of heart this year. So, they are trying for me now.

My point is:

I think you gotta resolve yourself to the fact that it may/will take time for your girlfriend to warm up to the idea of having kids. Years, in fact.

At the end of it all, if she really wants to be child-free, will you be fine with that? Or come to resent all these years lived without children?

——- When I decided to take the plunge and get married, someone said 结婚需要一股傻劲 (you need a bit of foolishness, even craziness, to want to get married). I agree how marriage is a leap of faith. What you seek for is strength and courage, so I think you are on the right track!

Be well!