Yes, agree it is a balance between not being told by others what you can do or should do/be, but seeking always to study and assess and decide what you want to do. The ability to think for oneself is a powerful skill but one that sadly not all people are lucky enough to gain. In the end I believe a lot of it comes down to the love or lack of it that surrounds us as we develop and learn how to think... our earliest years of life. Without the safety of a loving environment children may never develop the freedom of thought and inquiry required to search for, question and decide upon the many ways of seeing the world.