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There are 15 days left until Christmas and these days it is common for Christmas gifts to be cell phones, tablets or computers. These tools have their benefits, but it is also essential to use them correctly and with LIMITS.
I've seen some great ideas on the Internet about contracts you can have your children sign to establish clear and concise rules for cell phone or tablet use. These rules are of course modifiable according to each family's preferences and the age of their child. Having rights also entails responsibilities, and as your child grows and matures, the contract can be modified.
Responsible Cell Phone Use Contract
I, [your child's name], acknowledge that I have received a cell phone, and I agree to follow these rules for responsible use:
  • Set Schedules: The cell phone will only be used during times agreed upon with my parents, without exceeding or demanding more time without a justified reason.
  • School is my priority: The cell phone will not interfere with my schoolwork or participation in extracurricular or social activities.
  • Privacy: I will not share personal information, location, or images with strangers on the Internet. I will not send or share inappropriate photos or videos.
  • Limited Screen Time: I will limit screen time and take regular breaks to prevent excessive cell phone use.
  • No Cell Phones on the Table or in Common Areas: The cell phone will not be used during family meals or social times.
  • No in bedroom: The cell phone will be left outside the bedroom at night to avoid distractions and ensure adequate sleep.
  • Respect for other people online: I will treat others with respect online and will not engage in cyberbullying or negative behavior toward me or anyone else.
  • Parental control: I will accept and respect the parental control restrictions set by my parents and will always take their call when they call me on the phone. I understand that if it is an urgent call, they would do so via WhatsApp.
  • Responsibility for cell phone expenses: I understand that I am responsible for taking care of my cell phone and that I must immediately report any loss or damage to my parents. In addition to taking care of the financial costs if it requires repair, the money will come from my allowance or jobs I do at home (not including: washing the dishes, cleaning my room).
  • Location Sharing: I will allow my parents to know my location via my cell phone when I am away from home.
  • Listen to My Parents: I will listen to my parents if they have concerns about my cell phone use and will work together to resolve any issues.
  • Don't Answer Strangers: I will not respond to calls or texts from unknown or suspicious numbers.
  • Don't Use Cell Phone at School: Cell phone will be kept off, on silent or vibrate mode in backpack during school hours. Do not take it out unless it is an emergency or unless the teacher allows it.
  • Report Problems Immediately: I will immediately inform my parents if I encounter inappropriate content or threats on the Internet or if someone or something makes me feel upset through the screen.
  • Family Time: I will actively participate in family activities without distractions from the phone.
  • If I do not comply with these agreements, my parents will have the right to take away my electronic equipment for as long as they deem appropriate; I will not be able to make any claims or complain.
I, [your child's name], sign this document to record my commitment to this contract, and we will post it in a visible place for everyone to remember.
Signature: xxxx
It's pretty cool, it's a good idea to create the responsibility of fulfilling an agreed commitment... excellent!! I'm not an educator like our friend @cryotosensei but his opinion is a very good idea. That of only using a rule of 3. I totally agree.
If it's a child under 10 years old, all these rules will be too boring to remember regardless of whether you stop using the phone or not.
A rule of 3 is more precise and has more impact, and obviously it's much easier to remember, to keep in mind.
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As a teacher, I would suggest that you have at most three rules. The Rule of Three is geared towards our human minds to remember stuff. Anything more than that, and we’ll start to forget this or that.
For a contract to be effective, I think you should spell out x minutes per day (from Y hours to Z hours - if you deem it necessary). Of course, you may want to give your daughter more screen time on weekends. This differential treatment on weekends has to be written into the contract too.
The consequences have to be more explicit too. Is it three strikes and you’re out? Or is it flout one time and a phone becomes a deal breaker? As it stands, this is too vague. Children will spot the loophole and chew you alive lol
If I do not comply with these agreements, my parents will have the right to take away my electronic equipment for as long as they deem appropriate; I will not be able to make any claims or complain.
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Thanks for the suggestion! I saw this contract on the Internet, it's an outline or idea of ​​what it could be. I haven't done my daughter's yet, I like that there are 3 rules and of course, I agree that the hours and days should be specified. I think this contract is so long because it's aimed at older children, that's why I also mentioned that it can be modified to suit each family's taste and preference 🤎
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Certainly some duplicates and a little too lengthy i would think, but yea for sure not a bad idea. George Mekhail in his parenting book had some similar rules with his kids (though, not as expansive as this)
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I agree with you, these rules are more directed to kids between 12 and 16 years old. In case they are younger, the rules should be simpler, but with the same limits. Do you have a link to the book?
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Great, thank you very much! It can help many people
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