Choosing a partner to start a family with, is the most important decision in life. Many are not properly prepared for this, they fail that test, they become cynical about it, and actively start discouraging others. They don't want their bad decision making being exposed, so everyone else has to suffer the consequences. Don't fall for it!

An old schoolfriend of mine made the worst possible decision, and it literally slowly killed him over several years. Noone in his immediate circle warned him about his terrible choice. It's too late now...