1:33am while I type this.
At least I’m rested, but that’s at a cost too. It was Saturday yesterday, and I “slept in” until 1pm when our friends brought us tacos for lunch and we watched college football. I woke up to the smell of tacos! So what’s so hard about that?
Well I was up yesterday at midnight. Again at 3am. Then 6am to feed the baby. But by the time baby is back asleep at 7am, that’s when my toddler wakes up. So might as well have mom keep sleeping so I make toddler breakfast and entertain her with quiet activities until the newborn wakes up at 9am again, and then for sure mom will hear those cries and wake up.
What’s the way to make it work? For me and my wife, (mom and dad) to support each other as a team? She lets me go back to bed as she has the two kids!
But what did it cost? It meant I wasn’t able to help tidy up the house to make it look nice for when our friends came over and see our newborn for the first time. Is she understanding of that? Of course. Is she grateful that I took all the night shifts? Yes.
But when did we spend time together? Of course we were up together with our friends, having a blast cheering on our Alma Mater. But where was the time, for us?
Oh yea. That came at 10pm. After both our toddler was put to bed and our newborn son. But we better have spent that “golden hour” reconnecting for our relationship and not on individual “me time.”
So yea, that’s why it’s hard, even in a loving and supportive marriage! I’ve been told to re-define what I think of as my “me time”- time I spend reading my daughter goodnight stories, or watching The Penguin as I feed my son