21 sats \ 8 replies \ @tolot 3 Sep \ on: Road-To-Suave Fabs / Part 3. ideasfromtheedge
Keep it up man.
With regards to the approach and asking out girls in general, my point of view is that you've to leave her time to understand you've something to offer.
Something to offer could mean several things, that's up to you...usually that's status, cleverness, humour, physical appearance.
Generally if you close a girl in an angle (in a psychological way) and ask her out like that, with a cold move, you're likely to be rejected. There's no warming up, she's approached by a stranger she doesn't know and have nothing to do with, who's likely to be interested in her only sexually (generally). The defensive mechanism in female individuals of mammals like naked apes (aka humans) is to reject that cold approach.
I'm no PUA or any of that, but I think that girls' attention has to be triggered in order to make them interested and prone to accept your invitation. Girls are not all the same nail whereby you've simply to hammer the same way every one. Statistically that will work, but it's not efficient.
You learned that being rejected is not the end of the world (in fact, sometimes that creates an adrenaline rush XD) and that the distance between achieving something and not achieving it is narrow, it's the step you do in the correct direction (in this case, the girl).
Generally, an understanding of the context is needed...if you approach in gyms, you have to assume that the girl sees any gym bro approaching her straightforwardly as a shark trying to get in her slips.
That's something you want to avoid. But that's my two sats, no expert here.
Hm, I'm partly with you, but as we know, I'm still a bloody beginner and thus, mistakes have to be made- and felt! 😄🥲
Generally if you close a girl in an angle (in a psychological way) and ask her out like that, with a cold move, you're likely to be rejected. There's no warming up, she's approached by a stranger she doesn't know and have nothing to do with, who's likely to be interested in her only sexually (generally). The defensive mechanism in female individuals of mammals like naked apes (aka humans) is to reject that cold approach.
I'm no PUA or any of that, but I think that girls' attention has to be triggered in order to make them interested and prone to accept your invitation. Girls are not all the same nail whereby you've simply to hammer the same way every one. Statistically that will work, but it's not efficient.
Yeah, I might have "closed" her in a bit too much, I try to avoid pressuring a girl into something, which is why I simply leave after a "No" has been said, only to return another day, with another smile. 😄
My body language may still be a bit rough though, it's simply the way I walk and stand, gotta smooth that out in those situations.
but I think that girls' attention has to be triggered in order to make them interested and prone to accept your invitation.
Attention? Girls are absolutely flooded with - male - attention 24/7, the only way I see to actually make a dent, is to take things into the real world... 😅
Also "warming" up is quite a feat when trying to work out...
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Hm, I'm partly with you, but as we know, I'm still a bloody beginner and thus, mistakes have to be made- and felt!
There's no teaching willingness in my comment, I'm just walking by on the same path IRL, thus I can understand you.
Attention? Girls are absolutely flooded with - male - attention 24/7, the only way I see to actually make a dent, is to take things into the real world... 😅 Also "warming" up is quite a feat when trying to work out...
You're right, that's why I think gym is not the best spot to get those hunting session going...
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Isn't an entire planet out there? Clubs are mostly slimy places, I don't like those either.
Being in public places doesn't force you to increase your openness, it simply puts you in potential contact with more people. Statistically, that's how we find people we like, being that leading to a love affair or friendship.
Language courses? Reading clubs? Social gatherings? There's a crowd of possible environments you can expose yourself to, ranging from very intellectual to slimy. Analyse the range and understand what's your limit.
it's many things I don't enjoy at once
I can understand that, Rome wasn't build in a day as they say. give yourself time and compare your results with your past results.