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138 sats \ 32 replies \ @grayruby 26 Aug 2024 \ on: Road-To-Suave-Fabs/ Part 2 ideasfromtheedge
No handshakes.
Tell me more, sensei.
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Ha. You will have to talk to @cryotosensei if you want a true sensei. I just think handshaking women unless it is a business setting is kind of lame.
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Yeah, well, I don't know any better. 😅
How'd you do it? Simply shout your name and hope she responds in-kind?
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You just say "excuse me. Hi, I wanted to introduce myself. My name is Fabs". When she responds with her name you can say "nice to meet you (insert name)" and just nod and smile.
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But what do you do with your hands? That seems to be the source of confusion.
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Hey! This right here!
Hm, and when you're, for example, already "seen" and a sorry would be out-of-place?
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I like a small wave, a smile and hi when you are already seen.
I think @grayruby's no handshake advice is solid. This post is bringing back anxiety filled memories for me. I was terrible. You're already smoother than I was. I would have liked to give the Seinfeld Opposite George technique a try. Maybe you can if you hit a cold spell:
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0697744/
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I was terrible. You're already smoother than I was.
We don't unnecessarily edge people around here, Siggl, dig deep and tell us your "best" memory! 🤭😁
And what's the ELI5 of the link? I'm not too keen on watching the episode.
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Basically just doing the opposite of whatever your instincts tell you. As far as I go, I can honestly say that none of my planned pick ups worked out well. The only successful ones were when it kind of happened naturally, and I didn't need to go out on a limb. There was obvious mutual interest.
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Yeah, hm, it's difficult ain't it.
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I think it's more difficult for your generation. I think in today's world it's hard to draw the line between coming across as assertive while avoiding looking like a stalking creep.
In my younger years I was a big flirt. I used to actually do pretty well meeting women. I just wasn't very good at keeping women because I was so focused on my life.