Tell me more, sensei.
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Ha. You will have to talk to @cryotosensei if you want a true sensei. I just think handshaking women unless it is a business setting is kind of lame.
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Yeah, well, I don't know any better. 😅
How'd you do it? Simply shout your name and hope she responds in-kind?
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You just say "excuse me. Hi, I wanted to introduce myself. My name is Fabs". When she responds with her name you can say "nice to meet you (insert name)" and just nod and smile.
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But what do you do with your hands? That seems to be the source of confusion.
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Hey! This right here!
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Proud though I may be, I'm still going to rib you a little bit.
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Bring it, I'll manhandle you back into your cage 🥰
Hm, and when you're, for example, already "seen" and a sorry would be out-of-place?
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I like a small wave, a smile and hi when you are already seen.
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That's pretty much my plan for the club this weekend: Stand at a table and be on the lookout like a hawk until I catch a girl's looks, then smile and wave, and as soon as she responds positively to me (i.e does the same) I walk up to her and ask her what she's up to for the night, after which I'll try and see if she wants to go to a quieter place, get something to drink and hopefully have endless conversations!
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Don't try to hard. Act casual and I am sure you will find some nice one's to talk to.
I think @grayruby's no handshake advice is solid. This post is bringing back anxiety filled memories for me. I was terrible. You're already smoother than I was. I would have liked to give the Seinfeld Opposite George technique a try. Maybe you can if you hit a cold spell: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0697744/
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I was terrible. You're already smoother than I was.
We don't unnecessarily edge people around here, Siggl, dig deep and tell us your "best" memory! 🤭😁
And what's the ELI5 of the link? I'm not too keen on watching the episode.
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Basically just doing the opposite of whatever your instincts tell you. As far as I go, I can honestly say that none of my planned pick ups worked out well. The only successful ones were when it kind of happened naturally, and I didn't need to go out on a limb. There was obvious mutual interest.
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Yeah, hm, it's difficult ain't it.
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I think it's more difficult for your generation. I think in today's world it's hard to draw the line between coming across as assertive while avoiding looking like a stalking creep.
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Well, that, and girls are literally courtes to 24/7 via "socials", making it increasingly hard for someone to make a catch "offline".
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In my younger years I was a big flirt. I used to actually do pretty well meeting women. I just wasn't very good at keeping women because I was so focused on my life.
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Ah, a player @grayruby's past houses a little playboy, huh?🤭
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I wouldn't go so far as playboy and I definitely wasn't suave in my late teens and early twenties. I started to have more success with women when I grew up a little in my mid twenties before I got married, divorced and had a kid and got married again in the span of a few years in my late 20s, early 30s. Life comes at you fast.