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166 sats \ 8 replies \ @Fabs OP 12 Aug \ parent \ on: The Amount Of Attention Girls Get Is Off The Charts. mostly_harmless

It's just a lot of work to find each other in our culture right now.

Like finding a darn specific atom in the milky way...

196 sats \ 7 replies \ @k00b 12 Aug

Learn the game so you can spot when it's being played and honest people will shine like stars against the game's background.

20 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 12 Aug

Living well is the best strategy regardless of the game

maybe I'm wrong, first time for everything

10 sats \ 5 replies \ @Fabs OP 12 Aug

Hm, and how have you managed to "learn" it?

69 sats \ 4 replies \ @k00b 12 Aug

You don't have to be a player, but begin playing/sparing. Try to date. Try to make people find you attractive.

I didn't date much in my life, as I've always been a serial monogamist, but I enjoyed The Game. It's as an easy to read narrative about how some people play the game. In general, there's a psychology to dating and it's important to learn how women think about men. The pickup artist stuff is like a highly transmissible, ELI5 crash course to dating psychology. But, it can go much deeper and in its ethical forms it's like a non-PC, dating-specific version of Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People.

60 sats \ 3 replies \ @Fabs OP 12 Aug

Hm, I try to stay away from PUA "tactics" as far as possible, it's borderline manipulation in my eyes...

31 sats \ 1 reply \ @k00b 12 Aug

imho this logic can get one in a weird, hopeless place. A lot of PUA isn't about manipulation unless dressing up nice and learning how to demonstrate/present your value is manipulation. And, even if it were, learning about manipulation isn't equivalent to practicing it. You need to learn about manipulation to defend against it which is what I thought this post was about.