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It's just a lot of work to find each other in our culture right now.
Like finding a darn specific atom in the milky way...
Learn the game so you can spot when it's being played and honest people will shine like stars against the game's background.
Hm, and how have you managed to "learn" it?
You don't have to be a player, but begin playing/sparing. Try to date. Try to make people find you attractive.
I didn't date much in my life, as I've always been a serial monogamist, but I enjoyed The Game. It's as an easy to read narrative about how some people play the game. In general, there's a psychology to dating and it's important to learn how women think about men. The pickup artist stuff is like a highly transmissible, ELI5 crash course to dating psychology. But, it can go much deeper and in its ethical forms it's like a non-PC, dating-specific version of Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People.
Hm, I try to stay away from PUA "tactics" as far as possible, it's borderline manipulation in my eyes...
imho this logic can get one in a weird, hopeless place. A lot of PUA isn't about manipulation unless dressing up nice and learning how to demonstrate/present your value is manipulation. And, even if it were, learning about manipulation isn't equivalent to practicing it. You need to learn about manipulation to defend against it which is what I thought this post was about.
forewarned is forearmed.
It sucks to get manipulative habits though.
See. You'll definitely be just fine. Respect.
Living well is the best strategy regardless of the game
maybe I'm wrong, first time for everything
honesty is scarce, more scarce than usual
I don't think you need to be put off by it. If you know what it looks like, you should be able to avoid it. Your sister is a sample size of one, and online dating reviews, like all reviews, are prone to more negative experiences being self-selected for sharing.
Women that want honest partners are every bit as famished as men that want honest partners. It's just a lot of work to find each other in our culture right now.