I'm simply curious, for I keep on hearing that it's a literal shit-show; what's your experience in recent times?

I don't expect to start dating either way, for I've seen what a shit-show it can turn into even if you manage to find a "match", although I might be onto something else, we'll see.

Go ahead, don't hold back.

I am so glad I don’t have to go through this anymore.

It's been wonderful for me! Been dating my girlfriend for 4 years going on 5, and I'm very blessed to have met her when I did.

I thought I would share two pieces of cliche advice:

If you think it'll be a shit-show, chances are it will be a shit-show. But as long as you strive to be the best you can be, eventually someone as cool as you will come into your life.
And don't chase. An amazing partner will come into your life when you stop chasing and just focus on living your best life.

You cannot control what happens externally ie if a the person you go on a date with is a "shit-show" or the dating environment at large is a "shit-show". But, you can always control what's going on internally, and you can always improve yourself regardless of whether you are dating or not.

Anyways, all the best and have yourself an amazing day!

4 sats \ 3 replies \ @prazskygolem 5 Jun

Not chasing is a good way indeed , it goes well with this idea of not chasing butterflies but preparing a nice garden for them to come in.

So instead of actively pursuing potential partners (with the painful process, the disappointment, the drama etc ...) everyone is focusing on becoming the best version of themselves and creating a fulfilling life.

And worst case scenario If no partner comes, that is not too bad because the life we have is already pretty cool.

0 sats \ 2 replies \ @Fabs OP 5 Jun

And worst case scenario If no partner comes, that is not too bad because the life we have is already pretty cool.

*Hookers, FTFY. 😜

4 sats \ 1 reply \ @prazskygolem 5 Jun

Rookie mistake, Stack Sats @Fabs!

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Fabs OP 5 Jun

Owwkay? 😈

13 sats \ 8 replies \ @didiplaywell 3 Jun

There's no need to personally attack me this way

0 sats \ 7 replies \ @Fabs OP 4 Jun

So, not good? 🌝

0 sats \ 6 replies \ @didiplaywell 4 Jun freebie

I can't even start yet, I have to build myself first. During the 3 years I worked for libertarianism in Argentina I left my life to the side completely. I'm a shadow of a person in wealth and health. I'm more than thankful that I have everything served to progress, I'm just still in the middle of the process, but I'm fortunate as few.

13 sats \ 0 replies \ @SatsMate 3 Jun

I'm engaged currently, but found luck on Hinge and staying steady with her over a period of four years. Maybe I got luck, but I made sure I was financially fit, cool to be around and forward thinking about our future.

4 sats \ 1 reply \ @prazskygolem 5 Jun

At this point, I have been thinking seriously to get neutered

The current dating scene:

Superficiality: Judgments based on appearances, pressure to follow unrealistic online personas (instagram drama queen).
Emotional Detachment: Casual hookups leading to minimal emotional connections.
Mental Health Strains: Rejection, insecurity, and the relentless search for validation affecting mental well-being.
Dating Scams: Risk of being catfished, of sextorsion, ghosted, financial loss, resulting in serious trust issues.
No commitment: Need I say more?
Safety: Increased risk of STIs, risk of being misinterpreted and harassed, or cyberbullyied.
Societal Confusion: Confusion about gender roles and the clash between traditional expectations and modern dating practices.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Fabs OP 5 Jun

You know what's deterring me the most? The fact that women literally have to do nothing more then pick a guy from their virtually endless lists of admirers, be taken care of during the whole "get-to-know-each other"-phase, and make a call; but they're still single.

Fantasy? Nope, I have a sister (an average looking girl) which (has) had lists of guys who'd turn up to pick her up, drop her off, and pick her up again for nothing in return, who'd take her out for a night of clubbing, drinks for both her and her friend's on them, who'd turn up with flowers and take her out to eat for nothing in return, simply because they thought that they'd make a chance; although she decided (and told us) from the very beginning that she'd never-ever seriously consider the guys, it was amusement for her, on their costs and time; and they were all good-looking at that.

As men, and especially as an average male, you have to do everything, and the most awarded prize( if you even get one)? An average girl who starts nagging after the "honeymoon-phase" is over.

Call me a hater, but man: the stuff I see and hear my sister doing to these guys is a very potent in deterring me from even entering the arena.