69 sats \ 8 replies \ @Undisciplined 19 May \ parent \ on: Arguments for not having kids? culture
Somehow, I simultaneously agree with you both and also think kids should take care of their parents later.
I think that’s because I don’t think this is an acceptable reason for having kids and I think you have to earn that by being a good parent.
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69 sats \ 4 replies \ @Natalia 19 May
That is definitely a BAD reason to have kids, so selfish, then as kids, you should look after your parents when they are getting old for sure, but out of love not forced.
I quite like parenting in Turkey, kids and parents are like friends, always talking and spending time with each other; while it's more authoritarian in Asia, kids generally don't want to share much with their parents; I also like how much freedom kids in the west enjoy but then a bit distant somehow and less supporting.
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33 sats \ 3 replies \ @Undisciplined 19 May
I’ve had quite a few Chinese friends and what they describe is definitely not my vision of parenthood.
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42 sats \ 2 replies \ @Natalia 19 May
Maybe learn the best from everywhere!
Letting the kids have the freedom to explore and always be there to talk and support.
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @bief57 19 May
Exactly
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Undisciplined 19 May
One of the things I really appreciate about East Asian parenting is how much responsibility they give their kids. American parents are protective and coddling to an unhealthy degree.
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42 sats \ 2 replies \ @bief57 19 May
I don't think it's an obligation, but if my daughter, being an adult and by her own decision, wants to take care of me, well... maybe I've done something right or not, I don't know.
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21 sats \ 1 reply \ @Natalia 20 May
indeed, ppl need to be responsible for themselves instead of forcing it onto others, not even parents have the right to do that - kids are not your slaves.
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @bief57 20 May
I totally agree, that should not be an obligation. The craziest thing I found out recently is that in the country I am in, it is MANDATORY to pay pension to your parents and if you don't they can sue you. Imagine having suffered parental abandonment and then having to take care of that human being, it is a horror
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