Most of us spend more time with our colleagues than with our own families. So, managing workplace relationships is paramount to feeling productive, which in turns to leads to satisfaction and gratification.
I am now reading “Career on Course”. Prior to reading it, I have heard of the importance of managing one’s relationship with his boss proactively. Scott Jeffrey Miller takes it one step further by giving it a name: leading up 🆙.
This resonated with me because while I like my boss, I feel that her professional effectiveness could be enhanced in a way that won’t hinder my progress. Don’t get me wrong. She is the hardest worker I have ever met. She judiciously takes care of the smallest details and plots the big picture. I even wrote a recommendation for her to be awarded as an Inspiring Head of Department (English) for a nationwide contest:
X has injected purpose into the department, revamping the curriculum to focus on Big Questions that inquisitive teenagers would be interested in. Instead of relying on worksheets, she marshaled teachers to employ an unprecedented Project Work approach, believing that the students should be familiar with Design Thinking principles. The students’ final products showcased their creativity. She capitalised on her teachers’ strengths, allowing them to undertake novel methods for signature programmes like Reading Tuesday and Spelling Bee. While she is unflappable, she remains humble, acknowledging her mistakes and showing willingness to learn from her teachers. She exemplifies the Growth Mindset!
Here’s my beef about her, though. Because her glass is filled to the brim with so many things, she inevitably takes a reactive approach towards some projects. Case in point: Yesterday, I was delegating some work about the Spelling Bee to my team mates - and she commented that perhaps we would want to incorporate a new colleague’s way of teaching spelling into our existing practices. Thing is, if I hadn’t been so proactive in assigning work, I wouldn’t have known that she has this intention.
Now, I am trying to push forward but feel that I have to retreat backwards because of the need to integrate my colleague’s methods into the curriculum. I’m a bit irked, tbh, because I like to do things fast and furious.
I will probably tell her about her area for improvement during my work review, since I am as straight as an arrow and soften my constructive criticism with my devastasting (according to @Coinsreporter) and dry (according to @Satosora) wit, haha. But I would just like to know how you are leading up your boss so as to derive inspiration from some of your methods. Thanks in advance!
perhaps we would want to incorporate a new colleague’s way of teaching
You make it seem like a suggestion, but treat it like a command. Why didn't you reject the suggestion? Do you dislike the suggestion? Is it primarily because you aren't prepared for it? From what I read you are projecting onto you boss what may be your own inability to productively interact with your professional superior.
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This feels like a slap in the face - and I welcome it!
I rejected her suggestion, not because I dislike it, but because I want to leave white space for my other work commitments. This is exactly what I typed to her:
Now that we are all involved in the ITD project, I rather not innovate this fingerspelling part because I anticipate my time to be taken up via teaching 1S6 (my class students) how to use Simpler (an AI app that simplifies complex texts - this is a new initiative) well.
Okay I leave you to decide whether I am able to productively interact with my boss haha. Or do you think I’m being passive aggressive? All feedback welcome xP
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Now that we are all involved in the ITD project, I rather not innovate this fingerspelling part because I anticipate my time to be taken up via teaching 1S6 (my class students) how to use Simpler (an AI app that simplifies complex texts - this is a new initiative) well.
This doesn't seem passive aggressive. Perhaps its the amount of thought you put into it that made it appear a bigger deal to me than it seemed it actually was.
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Thanks for your second opinion, mate. Appreciate it
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Isnt your wit a bit dry, though? Maybe that isnt the right term. I will caution you on critiquing your boss though, depending on the society. Sometimes it is more headache than it is worth!
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Honestly, I have not thought too much about it haha. When I was in my teens, people used to call me sarcastic because I made biting remarks that vaguely stabbed at my teacher’s delusional nature haha. Now that I’m a teacher myself and am in the business of scolding teens, I think some of my students will still consider me funny, but they won’t know how to explain what kind of funny. As a father with too little bandwidth, I’m not always eager to take the humorous route with my colleagues. More like professional, tell me what I need to do for you so that I can serve n F off hahaha.
I gotta ask, if you work the night shift, how do you find time to bond with your kids? (I am assuming you have more than one.)
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I am there for the important stuff. Breakfast and when they are back from school. When they are at school, I am sleeping. Actually, I might be up for a job that has a rotating schedule, and 7 days off in some sections of the month. That might be interesting, but I might have to sacrifice my health a little bit because of that schedule. We will see. I like staying on a strict schedule for my sleep.
This also shows you've reached the zenith of dry wit.
Thanks for suggesting but as I mentioned many times I don't have any boss now. I don't work anymore. Yeah but that definitely doesn't make your post less significant.
The books that you mention are otherwise also so full of knowledge. I keep reading a lot and this will be on my Target list.
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