being a people pleaser seems like it should be a rewarding feeling. you are helping others, trying to do everything you can to make their life easier, and make them happy.

i used to do it pretty much my whole life, until now.

by putting everyone else before you, what time and effort do you actually have to spend on you?

it might sound selfish, and to be honest, it is. however, it is necessary to be selfish for yourself, and it is quite sad this often has a negative connotation to it. in no way am i saying helping others should be looked over completely.

but, how is it we can help others if we can't even help ourselves first?

being abroad made me understand the only person i should be looking to please and be selfish for is myself. at the moment, i have the world at my fingertips. i can go and do anything i please without seeking the approval or permission of anyone else. there's no need to wait on anyone, and it is purely the "get up and go" type of energy that gets me super excited. i mean, who doesn't want that?

being selfish has been a liberating experience. i have found it leads to alot less stress, and more content feelings of happiness.

try and take a day where you only focus on you, with nothing and no one else in mind.

it's freaking great.