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846 sats \ 9 replies \ @kepford 5 Nov 2023 \ on: Confessions of a burnt-out father meta
I would recommend talking to a counselor and some older father's that have life experience you dont yet have. People you trust and admire. Also if you can find other couples taking turns to watch each others kids is great. Your relationship with your spouse needs to be higher priority than your kids. And that is best for your kids. If you two have a healthy relationship that is going to give them greater security.
Also know as a father of two teens these years you are in are tough. In a few years you will have more time and you might miss how much your kids need you. I know I miss those days. Parenting is hard but I wouldn't trade it for the world. We are entering a phase of life where my wife and I will have more time for each other and ourselves. Its bitter sweet. Hang in there.
Thank you for your honesty.
Parenting is the hardest thing in my life.
It fucking sucks but it’s what we signed up for😂
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Talk to a counselor.
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Talk to your wife.
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Give your kids a hug.
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Get a baby sitter and take an hour or 2 with your wife.
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It takes a village
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We are not meant to live in the isolation of modern life where we have fake connection online with other personas. We need real relationships and vulnerability with our communities. Those can be family, friends, and/or church/religious. Great advice.
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my wife noticed my depression 2 years ago and signed me up for an over 35s football team.
This helped the a lot, and meeting local bitcoiners IRL 😂
I haven’t used OrangePill app yet but think that would be a great in person connector ⚡️
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I may sound cheap but I don’t want to pay to use the OrangePill app haha
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or hang out with non-bitcoiners, they're cool people too, lol :)
yep, and then pill the super cool ones - a good opportunity to learn from each other.
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Thank you for acknowledging that parenting fucking sucks. I think I may be able to cope with all this better if people aren’t just about how their kids bring them joy and meaning and what-have-you.
Yes, parenting is something I signed up for. It’s a cage that I willingly walked into 😅
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That’s what my principal said. I am a teacher irl. Somehow she got to find out from my colleagues about my parenting woes and ambushed me with a talk one day haha. She said that I would miss those days when my children treat me as their world.
Your suggestion about talking to older dads is something that hasn’t occurred to me. Thanks, it’s something that I think I can take on at this point of my life
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I'm a teacher too! In China, but still
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