For me?
Analysis paralysis.
I'm on the cusp of a project that I know will require more out of me than probably anything else I've worked on in life, and it's definitely hard knowing where to start.
How do you break through the feeling of being stuck with too many decisions to make?
Hiring. I need to hire. I take on too much stuff and don't distribute responsibility very well.
would happily help out for free with anything non-technical 🫡 lol im better with words than code
That's an amazing offer. You already do a whole bunch of work energizing everyone here. There's like 5-20 of you who really glue the community together.
Appreciate that k00b. And the fact that bitcoin ties it altogether makes it that much more fulfilling/rewarding!
Oh and not having enough time/energy to read as much as I'd like.
I fantasize about a two week vacation spent lying on a beach reading.
so true.
I collected a couple books based on what stackers threw at me in a post from a couple weeks ago but still have yet to really sit down with them ugh
I have a stack of five books on my desk that are torturing me. I know they solve the handful of mysteries that've been haunting me recently and that I'm going to be so grateful to have read them when I do, but I either don't have the time or don't have the energy.
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If you want to un-give-up, we try to be really attentive to dev env issues on github. We want to help people build and level up with us.
https://github.com/stackernews/stacker.news/discussions
Money
If you consider money your main problem, you will never have enough.
Concentrate instead how to save energy that you need it every day.
And Bitcoin is the best form ever in human history to store that needed energy.
jus keep stackin!
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It’s like knowing a dance. You know the moves but not where every footstep will land. Have faith in yourself and step boldly onto the dancefloor.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that analysis paralysis usually comes from thinking more information will help. But the more you know the more you realize you dont know.
The only solution, then, is to leap into action regardless of the unknowns!
this is true, any action is better than no action
I can relate to this but I found a method that works well for me so I will share.
First, you have to get over any idea that whatever you do will be prefect when you start. Obviously we should all strive for greatness but you have to start somewhere and then continually grow a project one step at a time through constant iterations. Understanding this has been huge for me. I just solve through iteration and as long as I never stop, I will never truly fail. I will only learn things along my path to freedom.
To do this, I use a few tools but the tools that work for me will not necessarily work for you but I'm sure you can find something similar that you really connect with. My 2 main tools are AirTable and ToDoist.
ToDoist is a great tool for recurring tasks that I need to do every day, week, month, etc. Things like "Spend 90 mins working on content every day" or "Respond to a thread on Stacker News twice a week". As long as I continually complete these tasks, eventually, I will have completed something greater.
AirTable is where I put ideas into a list as well but I don't have a set date or time to achieve them and they aren't recurring either. To prevent myself from getting distracted or taking on too many projects, I just add yet another line item to one of my many AirTables and when it is time to work on that, I will break it down into smaller steps in ToDoist to achieve that goal.
Larger ideas are for AirTable like "Launch Online Store" or "Contact bitcoin merch companies about resale opportunities" or "Publish 1,000 articles", etc. When I complete one task, I break the next one down into smaller bites that I can achieve on a regular basis. If I work on content for 90+ minutes a day, eventually I will publish an article. If I keep publishing articles, I will eventually have published 1,000 articles.
Perhaps you can apply this basic structure to your own life and prevent too many distractions. Keep your routine tasks achievable but also challenging enough that when you complete them, you feel a sense of accomplishment.
When I focus on one thing at a time, I find myself completing much more and feeling a lot better about it as well as motivating me to keep going.
I hope this helps, bro. Best of luck on your project.
I like this, cuts out the noise
Yeah. Keep things nice and simple and never stop.
Too many awesome projects. It’s a nice problem to have.
I get tempted or lured-in by the latest projects being open sourced and try to tinker with them myself, often abandoning what I have already started 😅
Therefore one of the biggest challenges has always been taking things past the finish line 🏁
Same here.
The man who chases 2 rabbits catches neither.
Do you have name? I can make you a simple logo for 200k or full design guidelines for 1M :)
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logo is simple, whole brand and its aplication :)
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Fear. Fear of failure… maybe fear of success.
Nb: If you are facing a huge task try breaking it into its constituent parts and micro tasks. The mental process of writing these steps down is an excellent way to start. How do you eat an elephant? One mouthful at a time…
Fear of another failure once again.
no success came without failure!
hehe yes you are right, but how many failures are good enough until you give up?
There is only 1 failure: giving up
yessss ! that is what I needed to hear :)
You ask the best questions.
Parenting for me.
I have one toddler and one baby, and boy do they suck all the time and energy out of me. I have been finding parenting extremely tough. I have no support. It’s just me and my wife looking after them, so I feel imprisoned in a cell that is admittedly my own making.
I realise that I no longer can go the things that rejuvenate me - a night out with friends, travelling or just time alone with myself. But unfortunately, I don’t enjoy parenting at all. How my toddler asks questions incessantly during dinner, how I must spend all my weekend with him at various playgrounds, how I must rock my baby girl to sleep in the wee hours of the morning. I don’t regret parenting but these days, I sigh a lot. I wish I had known just how unpalatable and unjoyful the whole business of parenting is.
I find that parenting holds me back because I wake up in the morning, nursing a slight headache rather than feeling recharged to conquer the day. I also don’t have the time to work on personal projects. Sometimes you need that few hours of white space so that you can figure things out and get into the flow and generally feel a sense of accomplishment. Parenting has robbed me of that.
Thanks for reading my rant haha
I can only imagine how hard parenting is.. always remember why you put in all the work for them that you do though
The payoff may just come later than other things
Thanks for the encouragement mate
One at the time.
Select the most important for you and start with those ones, no matter what others say.
Feel your first instinct. Is always the good one.
Probably spending too much time on nostr or reading SN comments
ask for help
i def dont ask for it enough
what are you looking for mortal @birdeye21?
A humble anon to take care of all my responsibilities please
No or poor leadership?
You are your only leader!
correct
The only thing that holds me back is my mind. But only if I believe in ;)
Money, time, family commitments, belief, & the ability to hone down to 1 idea & pursue that with everything
Few bucks to finish the automated trading bot software! 😁
Just do it my fren... the first step will always lead you to the next... be confident, you can do it
Not knowing where to start
Myself. I'm in a relatively comfortable situation, but I want to branch out. Problem is, I could go down a number of possible directions and I'm having trouble deciding. Good problem to have, but I also can't just continue to stew
flip a coin ?
Nothing, push to be great and you will be great! Being here on Stacker News means you know what it takes to be great, so be it!
I need to find a higher paying job, or long term side gig
With the extra income i'd be able to able to better afford a baby and stack a few more sats
Wish me luck freaks
just don't quit. keep at it, you'll get it.
Divide the big project into very small goals.
Plan with a calendar, for example divide the project time by weeks.
Celebrate achieving a goal.
And go for it! piano piano si va lontano
This is definitely big for me.
Im much more energized by immediate feedback in my work (hence also why I love SN)
So breaking things down into smaller achievements better helps me keep driving forward
A parasitic government that steals my life energy through taxation.
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My wife solved this problem by running away........Its almost like I kidnapped her. She gets along better with her folks now that they see her happy and doing well.
I did move to the other part of the world, but the problem remains unsolved, and it almost feels like it's haunting me occasionally.
And what happened in between?
I think whats interesting in my wife's case, is that the relationship she has with her family significantly improved. In between was a daily/weekly screaming match.....nowadays they say "I love you" before hanging up the phone. Maybe time, communication, and love are the key. All families are different tho
wow, and fun fact - the culture which I was born into, people barely say "I love you" or hug their kids.! now I am in a culture where the parents and kids are like friends, always hugging and kissing, lots of sharing and spending time together.
It's crazy to see how culture could have such a BIG influence on parenting.
Ha! Same scenario over here.
My wifes mom saw me interacting with my mom, I think it confused the hell out of her, because we were genuinely laughing telling jokes and exchanging "I love you"s
what problem?
you lived in communist places before, didn't it affect the parenting too? " You are supposed to do whatever everybody does instead of walking your own path."
Like I should have already married and have kids by my age, yet I'm still exploring on my own, and many other forced obligations, why can't I just roam free like a bird 😳
Oh the post is about parenting? Maybe I didn't understand the question.
Don't take it too seriously the parenting thing.
I have a daughter too. But I raise her to be independent from me as much is possible.
And she is now.
I know, moms take too seriously this role, but is not necessary.
Is better to have kids earlier, so they can fly earlier from your "protection" and not be anymore a "problem" for you.
So you could have more time for you to enjoy it.
This is the way, but no, I am not worrying about my own parenting, I would just let the kid do whatever he/she wants in life, they are free to choose because it's their own life.
I'm talking about what if your parents put some unwanted obligations on you, or try different ways to affect/ control you, e.g. making you feel guilty about exploring your own life.
Oh yes they did that to me. But I consider it more a reflection of their anger about the system and wrongfully they push it over me.
But I retreat myself into books. I read a lot when I was young.
Also my grandpa helped me a lot with advice and teaching me a lot of stuff about life. He fought in bought WW, a real survivor.
I was kind of independent kid at the age of 15. I was even running an "illegal" business in school and earning quite good money.
I didn't want to depend too much of my parents. I was a rebel, always.
I know that's also part of their familiar way of parenting from their own parents, so I don't know how to solve this problem, and it's causing mental conflicts.
I was a rebel too! More like just thinking for myself instead of following the BS; I started making my own money from young too, I even worked as a freelance translator to practice my English during school time, I like learning in the wild 🤣 and almost couldn't graduate from uni because I didn't want to waste time writing that stupid paper.!
👀 @DarthCoin
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would you choose to do what makes others happy or make yourself happy long term? But then the culture would make you feel guilty if you choose for yourself, madness...
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It is, it's going against individual freedom and happiness in many ways.
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haha what's the old saying
don't jinx a good thing too early
somethin like that
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