I feel the same way as you. I wish my Reporting Officer had spoken directly to me about this. I also don’t know why this aspect of our work culture persists. People tend to bring up what they don’t approve about his colleague’s behaviour to their direct superior or another colleague intimately linked with him. Maybe because we are a people generally adverse to ‘confrontation’?  

cryotosensei

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What negative feedback have you received recently?

i wonder, wasnt there a better way for your colleagues to handle that?

your relationship to, and how you manage class, shouldn't be anyone else's business. its like you being a passenger in my car, the car whose odd clicks and sounds, and the fact that it pulls to the right a little bit on the highway and whose signal doesnt disengage on its own, ive spent hours getting to know, and you constantly tell me how i ought to drive. 

now, if you don't like how i drive because you believe im endangering myself or others then you should talk to my face about it. 

im more 'senior' than most of my colleagues so its rare that I face criticism. frank, direct and constructive criticism is something i wish i had more of. 