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What's the main strength of your antagonist?

770 sats \ 15 comments \ @optimism 11h AskSN

We all encounter people with whom we structurally disagree, also here on SN. It often stems from our own individual biases: when we critically evaluate what our antagonist has written, we struggle to relate to the author's premises or conclusions.

Groupthink, confirmation bias and ego can amplify this disconnect. Reflecting on this led me to consider the qualities of the people with whom I most frequently disagree. I think that understanding their strengths can help me approach our differences with greater respect and provide valuable feedback into my own thought process. Thoughts like what I just wrote in the discussion at #999625 reinforce my belief that the capability to respect your opponents will strengthen you: the polarized human is a weak human.

I want to see if I'm on the right track here... so I'd like to ask SN:

Without naming or tagging anyone, please, what is the main strength of your antagonist?

I'll share mine:

The person I disagree with most on SN is a very good analyst and, despite my complete disagreement with the big picture narrative they support, often right about a significant portion of the smaller conclusions and even predictions underneath the bigger narrative.

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200 sats \ 3 replies \ @elvismercury 7h

This is a great question.

My antagonist has no patience for theoretical and abstract thought and wants to see concrete things only. He's very good at making steady progress on anything he cares about.

201 sats \ 2 replies \ @SimpleStacker 7h

I assume this means you're abstract and theoretical, and make slow progress on whatever you're doing?

But I bet it also means that when you do take action, you do it the right way usually

200 sats \ 1 reply \ @elvismercury 2h

I appreciate that generous interpretation :)

I am dreamy and get lost in ideas. I'd say that I make a great pairing with folks who are less imaginative and welcome my influence, much as I appreciate their virtues. I've had teams like that and it was beautiful.

My antagonist, sadly, sees no value in it, so all we do is wage various secret wars against each other. He moves forward relentlessly on mostly trivial shit. The annoying thing is that work is way more legible.

100 sats \ 0 replies \ @optimism OP 1h

My antagonist, sadly, sees no value in it, so all we do is wage various secret wars against each other.

About a decade ago I had a thing going on (where I was a "dreamy" designer) during a 6-month gig turned 18-month-gig I didn't even really want to do, at an international business where my antagonist was working in isolation in an office 10hr worth of flights and a 3 hour drive away: it wasn't easy to just go drop by his office and be like "sup, let's fix this". It was slowing down the project we were both working on and I hated it - deliveries that I was ultimately responsible for got de-prioritized in favor of endless refactoring and "productizing".

It got resolved by me taking the flights, the drive, having a beer, planning out the follow-up phase of the project the next day, have another (couple of) beers, drive back, fly back. All that was really needed was the mutual idea that the other was not a threat, and face to face contact helped a lot with that; the beers weren't really needed but may have helped in opening up. This ended up that we both did some concessions in our wish-list, made it work. And 4 months later we delivered, transitioned the customer deployment to service, and funnily, we both left around the same time.

De-escalation is important.

100 sats \ 2 replies \ @k00b 7h

The person I disagree with the most is very skilled at perception engineering, and when it's used for good, it's very generative.

200 sats \ 1 reply \ @SimpleStacker 7h

I actually think your so-called "perception engineers" are extremely valuable. For someone like me, there's nothing better than partnering with a philosophically aligned, skilled perception engineer

100 sats \ 0 replies \ @optimism OP 7h

My best buddy since like 30 years calls himself "the glue", so I guess he's a perception engineer (or a "smooth, sneaky mf", lol). I often disagree with him philosophically but when we get to agree on a plan, we get things done. The disagreement most often helps fine-tuning the plan, because arguments are fine as long as there's respect. You can hash things out.

It's much harder to respect random people on the internet though, but it can definitely be done.

100 sats \ 0 replies \ @Solomonsatoshi 1h

At the core of free markets and democracy is the contest of ideas. It is a beautiful thing when it can function. But it is a fragile thing too...easily disrupted and fractured by fear, greed and insecurity. If we close down the contest of ideas with personal attacks and abuse instead of responding to an adversary with a reasoned retort we expose our own weakness. Adversaries give us the opportunity to demonstrate the advantages of our contrary viewpoint. Many of our views are based upon the bias of our past experience and cultural location so adversaries views can be useful in gaining new perspectives.

Here on SNs the Libertarian viewpoint is perhaps the loudest but there are a range of views and sometimes some decent reasoned debate- certainly more than occurs on most social media. The Libertarian view has the strength of being simple and uncomplicated- it is pro market and anti government. It champions individual liberty and freedom(good things) , ignoring that to some extend our individual freedoms depend upon the strength and security of the nation state we are citizens of.

I have been called a Chinese bot, statist and government agent, because I do not agree free enterprise is the only factor in a strong and prosperous economy- I contend that government is to some degree an inescapable consequence of human nature and our need to work collectively to some extent to provide the best framework free enterprise and society in general to prosper, while protecting our wealth from others who would seize it given the opportunity,- ie I advocate a mixed economy and one where government is seen as essential, but also one where government must be regulated by an active and involved population who fight against the eternal tendency for vested interests to lobby and infiltrate government to advance their interests over those of the wider population.

100 sats \ 4 replies \ @moptosh 4h

The ultimate force. Able to anticipate your every move to throw you off balance mentally and influence your decisions. he's gains the upper hand manipulates your emotions pushes you into doubt and hesitation. Always one step ahead and absolutely ruthless.

0 sats \ 3 replies \ @optimism OP 3h

Interesting! How do you deal with that?

0 sats \ 2 replies \ @moptosh 3h

Neuro-Linguistic Programming offers effective strategies to resist psychological influence and manipulation. https://www.youtube.com/watch?reload=9&time_continue=9&v=cNHwYkRrCss&embeds_referring_euri=https%3A%2F%2Fchatgpt.com%2F

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @optimism OP 3h

Why does your embed say that the referral comes from chatgpt.com? lol

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @moptosh 3h

drown the tracks.. lol

107 sats \ 0 replies \ @lunin 8h

My strongest "antagonist" taught me patience. Disagreement sharpened my thinking more than agreement ever did.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @aPolitical 10h freebie

My antagonist main strengths should be my weakness...