Neither my wife nor I ever wanted kids. I guess I would have if she really wanted to have one, but I'm happy she never changed her mind. We're just not kid people.
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163 sats \ 3 replies \ @Undisciplined 26 Apr
I think it was mostly just biology asserting itself. We weren't really planning on having kids, but were both becoming more inclined towards it as time went by.
Eventually, thankfully, my wife brought it up as something she wanted to do.
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30 sats \ 2 replies \ @Aardvark OP 26 Apr
I never got that. I was expecting it to happen eventually with me or my wife, but nada
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63 sats \ 1 reply \ @Undisciplined 26 Apr
Then it might just be the right choice for you. It bums me out (selfishly) when interesting and conscientious people don't have kids, though.
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38 sats \ 0 replies \ @Aardvark OP 26 Apr
My wife is a mess. I don't think she'd do well with kids lol.
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42 sats \ 1 reply \ @cryotosensei 27 Apr
I have no idea 😪
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Aardvark OP 27 Apr
Lol, poor sensei is having quite the day.
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42 sats \ 0 replies \ @OT 27 Apr
I never wanted to have kids. I thought that the world wasn't really a nice enough place to be bringing someone into.
Then around the time of COVID I had a good look at myself and found that I wasn't being honest. We agreed to have one and then immediately after I wanted more lol.
Having kids changes everything and you end up giving up a lot but it's all worth it. No regrets.
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63 sats \ 4 replies \ @_Bubble_2009 26 Apr
A child is a huge expense and a huge responsibility. I can understand those who, like you, do not want any.
But our fugli are our legacy, we pass on to them our knowledge, our tradition and they will be the ones to carry on our surname.
I have a daughter and if I had had the right partner, maybe I would have wanted at least another one, but unfortunately that's not how it went.
Now, even though my mother does everything to ruin her, I am trying to pass on to my daughter my values, my culture and my knowledge.
- Is it difficult? Yes
- It takes time away from my work and my private life? yes
- If I hadn't had my daughter, my life would be different? definitely yes, but maybe it would be emptier.
Now that my daughter is a teenager, many other problems have arisen, just look at this post I opened yesterday: #956433
But as she grows, school, friends and television (and, hopefully as late as possible, social media) increasingly shape her being.
But I remain her father and I manage to involve her in my old passions, and I write these few lines to you after having been with them at an aquarium fair.
The mother of the child, on the other hand, makes a rather toxic speech.
She claims that a child is necessary to take care of the parents when they are old, and that her only regret of not having had a second child is that the child will have to take care of her alone.
I am not criticizing your choice, but I can share my experience by saying that if I went back, maybe with another woman, I would have had two or three children (health and money permitting).
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21 sats \ 1 reply \ @siggy47 26 Apr
I hope your spouse can't read this!
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36 sats \ 0 replies \ @_Bubble_2009 26 Apr
She know all this
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @quark 26 Apr
Tell her there will be robots taking care of us. No children needed anymore.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @_Bubble_2009 26 Apr
Lol
I robot docet
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21 sats \ 1 reply \ @398ja 26 Apr
I had a very cool line before kids. Now I'm just a boring old dude...
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Aardvark OP 26 Apr
I don't have kids, and I'm a boring old dude... don't worry about it.
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @quark 26 Apr
The trend is to stop having children You can clearly see it in more developed countries. But it may be too late to fix the world. We overpopulated and destroyed the only place in the Universe we could live on. And then some still say we were intelligent.
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68 sats \ 0 replies \ @anon 26 Apr
The number reason we are on this planet is to reproduce. Life without children is a life with less meaning. Or maybe no meaning.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Signal312 16h
I have big regrets over not having MORE kids. Folks, don't discount this. Many people have these regrets.
Also another thing to think about - if you don't have kids, you will be the ONLY ONE in all of your line, of all of your millions of ancestors, who did not have kids.
That blows me away.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @LowK3y19 27 Apr
Got to make kids or else the future is fucked
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @lv99slacker 27 Apr
- Can barely afford to take care of myself.
- A lot of people like kids. I'm not one of them. Most of my interest in the idea of having children is extending my bloodline. IMO, this is not a good reason to have children.
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0 sats \ 3 replies \ @longlifelearner20 26 Apr
I believe that is a great thing that you both come to simply understand that you do not want oke just yet, but i think that it would be better to have one just to fill the home with their baby noise . I think that could be it.
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0 sats \ 2 replies \ @Aardvark OP 26 Apr
Dude, I'm 43 and have a vasectomy. That ship has sailed.
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @longlifelearner20 27 Apr
sorry to hear about that bro i hope you may have great times together
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Aardvark OP 27 Apr
Sorry? I don't want kids.
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