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43 sats \ 5 replies \ @Undisciplined 14 Apr \ parent \ on: Is Middle Age the Ideal Age? (FT, Janan Ganesh) AskSN
Exactly my feeling too.
I remember being younger and finding this sort of thing appealing. After having a kid, though, I look at people like this with a great deal of pity. I remember thinking "Oh my god, that's all her life is going to be." about a relative who chose not to have kids and is about that age. It really hit me in a deeply existential way.
Even though my saltiness while writing the post were real, I kind of regret writing it. But not enough to delete.
It would be nice if people stopped judging each other for how we all live our lives. I think I was reacting in annoyance to the people without kids who like to rub their lifestyles in others faces... but I realize that parents can do that too when they say things like "your life is not meaningful," or "who will take care of you when you're older."
So, I repent of my saltiness... I am guilty of the very sin that drove me to that anger, haha. Something something about the log in my own eye.
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Nah, no worries. Saltiness is always welcome on my posts
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My reaction really isn't out of annoyance or anything. I just remember being in that place emotionally and I'm so much more fulfilled now that those folks make me sad.
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I've started to see that perspective too... like, "oh lord, these people don't get life. Like why we're here, what we're supposed to do."
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I was slow to the party, but I'm eternally grateful that I figured it out in time.
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