LNbits is the best. And you have the Boltz extension integrated and can configure to swap automatically as you wish.

That is a problem. You must have on clearnet if you want anybody to be able o pay you. Otherwise you should consider switching to nostr-market (see LNbits).

You could run a Tor node at home (or whatever) and a lnbits instance on a remote VPS, pointing to your home node. In this way you can make "visible on clearnet only your lnbits. Or use a VPS IP as a wireguard tunnel for your lnbits instance installed on the same machine as the node.

I've explained more scenarios here: https://darth-coin.github.io/merchants/build-lnbits-app-server-en.html

But Tor node + woocommerce = is not gonna work.