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42 sats \ 5 replies \ @stack_harder 27 Feb \ on: How do you deal with anxiety? AskSN
Like many wise stackers, I go into worst-case planner scenario and dial it right back as far as it will go.
One thing I find helps me, in a work context is being proactive, so I search for more clients, doing more outreach.
Now, usually, not much comes of this, but taking action, I'm at least not sitting around for the ax to fall. I'll look at online courses and learn a new platform or something. I need to feel like I am taking some action.
Another thing that helps is past experience. I mean, I've had it happen where I've lost all my clients and income at once, and it's happened a few times, last Two Christmases in a row, I lost big contracts, actually. Luckily, all the xmas shopping gets done way earlier.
My wife relies on a rental income in freaking rubles and she's had situations where it's either a tenant that walked 3 months in arrears and stole furnatire, or the wild fiat swings of the ruble or some gay law Putin has dreamed up kicking our ass. The abyss is my old friend, I get worried when things go too well for me because I feel like the next ball shot has to be coming lol.
Now in your case, since in this case, it's your wife's job and not something you can control, I would just support her in finding interviews and looking at reskilling, if applicable, and going hard on putting aside more money before the income gets slashed. checking out the temporary unemployment benefit situation.
Then i'd map out a situation based on a long-term job loss and, for example, what happens if she cant work or find a job for like, a year or something crazy, whats the timer until the bank forecloses, could you release equity and live in a van for a year or something and rent the house out?
Put any and all of it on the table
Luckily, with my wage alone, if I work a lot of overtime (about 55 to 60 hours a week) we can tread water. We can't, save anything though, so any unexpected costs are going to dig into our savings until it's gone.
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that's good, at least, you can put a timer on the savings as well, like ok, this will last until x, then you can generate scenarios for those time frames.
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Yea, it just puts a lot of pressure on me. I have to get the hours at work, which isn't always easy. On top of that 11 to 12 hour days are brutal.
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all that, literal, trucking has to be hard on the back right? will you have time to do any mobility work and stuff?
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I get in and out of the truck dozens of times a day, so it's not too bad. I also still make time for my weight lifting.
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