A dangerous wisdom that boomers spread to their children that some things will just happen on their own like puzzle places that fall in place. Like you will find a wife/husband when the time is right. Or that you will eventually get promoted if you work hard enough.

These things are not true. Or maybe they were meant more figuratively than literally in the first place. No, you have to be actually actively looking for a partner. This is not a Hollywood romcom where you accidentally run into someone at Starbucks. You have to be actively talking to your boss about how much effort you put in. If your boss oversees 15 people they will not recognize this on his own.