I can honestly understand both sides and viewpoints. I, as a man, clearly empathise with the woman in this scene. More than the actual work, it is about the effort and mindset to actually take initiative and take responsibility in household chores. For god’s sake the man is an adult; he should not require another person to tell what to do in the house. I come from a society where men are not at all expected to do household chores. However, since I moved abroad to a different country, I broke all those norms. I share the household chores as equally as possible with my wife, even doing things that are considered “feminine” in my culture. And that is hugely appreciated by women. I will speak at least on behalf of my wife.

Now that being said, I will shift to the man’s perspective. Also, we, men, suck at communication. And we bottle up all our emotions. Aptly titled communication backlog by the OP. If only the man had shared with his partner that he needs time to relax after coming from work and then he would definitely help with the dishes, I am sure the woman would have understood. We need start speaking up. Talk about the small things. The things we think are “silly” feelings. Share our lows with our partners. It won’t be an easy ride opening up. Especially in the beginning. But it becomes easier as you go. Celebrate the wins. Communicate your needs.