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My family has not long moved where we have started from scratch making new friends. It's kinda semi rural with the friendliness of a typical country town. I'm talking about saying hi to strangers that walk past, that kinda stuff. Having spent most of my life in big cities it's quite refreshing, and I think it's a good environment for the kids to grow up in.
So we were lucky enough to have been invited to a friends house to spend Xmas lunch with them and another family. We'd only met once but since we didn't really have anything else on we took him up on the offer. I kinda took a back seat and let my wife (who's a social butterfly) handle all the organizing. Luckily they had discussed it a little before hand as we found out they had already bought our kids presents! I was quite surprised since we'd just met, so we had some last minute shopping to do.
Not to draw out this story too long I'll get to my point. It's been quite some time that I've bought gifts, drinks and chocolate for an occasion like this. To me the "normie" mindset is something along the lines of that you want to make a good impression or you want a create a closer connection with new friends. For that to happen you need to buy "stuff" to give to each other so that you're perceived as a nice person. That might be a little cynical as I know most don't think too much about it. They just do what other also do.
However, at the risk of sounding like a "$%&*%$" the way I see it is that our families get poorer, unhealthier and dumber while Kmart/Target/Walmart make money from it. The worst is that we seem to be happy about it and are reaffirmed as being a great friend!
The force is strong with this one..... You get pulled right into the game and before you can think it's your turn to play along. The escape is to be isolated, but no one wants that for their family.
Having an online community like SN satisfies a piece of the pie for me, but nothing beats that IRL connection.
If Bitcoin can fix one thing it's definitely consumerism. Although we all had a good time at the party I'm going to keep working on our new friends for a Xmas not too far from now that we'll be celebrating humbly, healthily and have more sats too!
Happy Xmas!
the way I see it is that our families get poorer, unhealthier and dumber
We are much alike in this outlook. I can't help but feel there's a healthier balance to be struck here, which is what really bothers me about it.
Could we buy/make things to share that positively impact each other, instead of garbage?
It seems that people interpret that as you sending them a "hint" about how they need to change their lifestyle. It would be nice if the interpretation were "I care about you, so I'm going to try to share something beneficial with you."
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23 sats \ 0 replies \ @OT OP 11h
Glad to hear I'm not the only one.
I think hosting a gathering, sharing a meal and drinks is enough. I guess you just have to be honest with your friends and see how it turns out.
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Christmas gifts are for kids
Adult gifts are optional
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I've accepted I cannot select my family, they are who they are, and they are the sum of their choices, as am I.
The only difference is I am open to ridicule and willing to engage honestly and will hold onto my opinions if you can't provide me with a solid argument. What I find is most people's ideas aren't theirs. It's just what was familiar, convenient and packaged where my ideas came through going through the process, so it's easy to poke holes in their way of thinking.
The problem is they're not going to change; call it sunk cost, call it comfort, call it a lack of personal responsibility or accountability. Ultimately, it's still their choice, and they reap what they sow.
I enjoy my time with those people in the doses I think work for me and engage on their level and move on, just another day, the rest of my life I can do what I want so i see it as a small mercy
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144 sats \ 3 replies \ @k00b 19h
I don't associate gift giving with consumerism fully. Most of what a gift represents is "I was thinking of you when I didn't have to." Most of us opt for the easiest version of that intent which is buying stuff, but that isn't the mandate. I've had normie friends that have given us fruit from their garden as a gift, and family that's given us preserves they made.
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18 sats \ 0 replies \ @OT OP 12h
Sounds like you have some good friends
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fruit from their garden
excellent gift
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39 sats \ 0 replies \ @Satosora 18h
I feel a gift that is handmade is a lot different than a gift you actually make yourself. It always seems more personal because you have invested more of yourself in the gift.
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For this reason, ignorance is a social gift. The greater the knowledge, the worse it will be to enjoy social conventions, but solitude is not the best option, not that you wrote this, but it's more to punctuate my point of view. We are the sum of our personal and interpersonal relationships and contemplating these moments with happiness and affection in the end is what remains
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hello friends, I can only say, Merry Christmas, have a nice day and may you be healthy and live long.
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Merry Christmas not happy Christmas
Happy Hanukkah not merry Hanukkah
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