Everything is complicated when your truth is built on a flimsy platform. Certainly lightning is different. It's getting easier all the time. At the same time learning anything is as the French (? not sure of this source) saying goes: "Pain is the trade going into the apprentice."

There are thousands of people trying to make Bitcoin and Lightning easier to use. The trick is that understanding the fundamentals brings you closer to being one of those thousands. As with all technology, when things go well no one is crying and when things don't work everyone is mad. Sometimes it is a matter of asking for help. I am guilty of not asking for help so I get mad and then when I am really bent out of shape I let go and take a long walk.