Have you tried feeling differently?

Also, wisdom from John Vallis (who probs stole it from someone else): there's no reason to be offended, never. Words are either useful or irrelevant
= If there's anything useful in what the guy is saying, ever so slightly -- take it. Learn from it.
= If what the guy is saying is irrelevant, discard it. No hard feelings, no nada.

That's it.