1 sat \ 6 replies \ @Undisciplined 13 Nov \ parent \ on: Is polyamory more of a thing these days? AskSN
It's horrifying and it isn't from lack of desire to have relationships, as I understand it. They just don't know how.
Completely spit-balling here, but has the Tinder phenomenon made sex into something completely transactional? Last time I was in the US, I stayed for a few weeks with GenZ'ers who were attending university and they told me that's basically what Tinder gave them that wasn't there before. At least, not at a large scale, accessible to anyone: sex without commitment at the click of a button. Not sure they were exaggerating or not, as I did not get to experiment myself. My only Tinder experience led me to make a friend in Spain~~
EDIT: All this to say that if sex is transactional, you never got to know the thrill of building the relationship that led to sex in the before times. So, you don't know how to have a romantic relationship.
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That might be part of it, but they're also having less sex than prior generations.
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I see. Yeah, sociology questions never have simple AB answers...
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My wife and I both favor the hypothesis that it's due to the greater potential for humiliation in the social media age.
Asking a girl out has always been scary enough, but now there's the remote possibility that she'll also humiliate you online for trying. I imagine there's a corresponding concern that girls have, when it comes to actually being in a relationship.
It's a brave new world and we need to work out some new norms ASAP.
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But I also think socia l media and apps changed expectations. Girls who are average looking get way more attention than your average guy. But the same goes for guys. With more porn and only fans showing off for $5 a month makes men think they deserve a certain level of beauty.
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There are a lot of toxic ingredients in this awful soup.
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