The most difficult people to deal with are those who never truly grew up—who carried all their childhood bad habits into adulthood. Although they are grown, they haven't learned to control their temper, still pouting over everything, and refuse to restrain their desires, unleashing tantrums whenever they please.
These are the people who can't connect emotionally, who remain trapped in their egos, constantly seeking care without ever offering it in return. They cling to their rights yet pretend not to understand when you bring up responsibilities, the "shoulds" and "musts."
In the end, the hardest people to face are those who act like spoiled children, still trapped in an adult body.
It's related to government. This happens mostly in countries in which the child grows and goes from parenting to gov-parenting. Govs use this to maintain happy slaves in their portfolios, and the method is as this: they use the grown ups to extract their rent and spare it over the less grown ups. In the end, maturity average is less and less, up to a point in which a big reset must happen, or otherwise mega destruction would inevitably happen.
This cycle is best understood with this meme:
true adversity is what brings many to adulthood
parents experience this with children's fragility but not sure that is necessary
life or death adversity or serious financial adversity or witnessing someone else go through it and resonating with their experience is also sufficient
There can be many reasons for this. But it can also be due to reasons beyond the control of the person himself/herself.
Example:
NPD, a condition that is common in psychology today. A person with NPD assigns specific roles to their children. After all, the "adult child" structure is a common feature in that person's children.
Today, NPD is thought to be in 6 out of every 100 people.
Peter Pan syndrome
When I searched the internet for "Peter Pan Syndrome" I saw a very similar definition with NPD. And the page redirected me to the description of "Narcissistic Personality Disorder."
I think both are related to childhood trauma. But NPD's effects can start in every age of life.
I thought Peter Pan syndrome was more innocuous. Men refusing to grow up
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I see this a lot!
So did I. It seems to be a very common phenomenon these days.
I worked as a chef. I would give new cooks recipies, ingredients and all the tools. If someone couldn't cook the question was never "what's wrong with the oven" it's "what's wrong with the cook"
Those impared by simple tasks are the ones in need of the most instruction. The kind you can't get from a recipie book.
The distinction between a chef and a cook, a juntzi and a commoner, Zarathustra and human waste, is in the ability to tell if the person you need to work with needs recipies or instructions. Don't be a cook. Become a chef.
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In this case I suppose they are people 👥 who did not grow up with adequate guidance that would teach them to express themselves, or regulate their emotions but not repress them and then explode... I suppose all these bad aspects are created within the home 🏡, and the only ones responsible for running the home are the Parents
I'm sure one they had bad parenting.
In my view, most "adults" still act in many different ways like they are children.
Look at the parents, you will know why....imho
Adulting sucks
Well, i am stable, responsible, reliable, don't throw tantrums and stuff like that.
I am still called childish because of things like watching anime, wearing hoodies and cheap shoes, commuting by bicycle everywhere, picking new hobby every one or two years, playing musical instrument (badly, i am not a musician) and stuff like that... So this "insult" is kind of meaningless.
Too many kids grow up into larger kids because of all the video games.
Life cant just be reset.
I went through a painful experience with a person of that nature, and it deeply affected me.
I was reading an article about this the other day:
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-10-26/melbourne-peregrine-falcons-parenting-tips-maturity/104518992
The writers argument was basically that we tend to protect our kids too much and so waters down their resilience and ability to deal with difficult situations.
Spoiled children make my eyes roll
What you are describing already has a name. It's called "Peter Pan Effect": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Pan_syndrome
You know - like the fictional character Peter Pan who doesn't want to grow up.