The loneliest moment in someone's life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do to stare blankly. It's not the shattering itself that breaks you--it's the silence that follows, the quiet space where you realize there's is nothing left to salvage. And in that moment, you know that you'll never be the same again. You'll build something new, perhaps, but it will never be what you lost.
F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby
Fitzgerald had the words we all feel but can’t express. He was a genius.
Nothing will be the same again. Yesterday is not today and 5 minutes ago isn't now. It's supposed to be different. The real fear is being stuck in a moment like what is described. It's not the fear of the passage and movement of our lives. It's that it stops.
Life gives us all knocks but we can either choose to live in misery and self pity or move on and face the rest of our lives with hope.
And, sometimes, thank God for that! Maybe what you've lost was the worst thing that could possibly be. But you were so used to coping with it, you held on. Yes. It's still lonely. Yes rebuilding is hard. But if you have learned the lesson... you may WANT TO never again have what you lost.