People just want to be in the middle \ stacker news ~alter

689 sats \ 8 comments \ @Myshkin 12 Oct alter_native

I'm not the kind of guy that likes being at the center of the conversation, but I'm always willing to listen people's stories, their sufferings. To discuss happiness or sadness. This makes me that kind of friend a lot of people like to talk to.

The point is, I suffer this terribly. People just like to talk about themselves, always with their "me, me, me, mine," etc.

People are just monkes fallen in love with a mirror.

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21 sats \ 4 replies \ @Undisciplined 12 Oct

My wife's trick for quickly ingratiating herself with people is to just ask them questions about themselves. It's wild how much that's what most people want to talk about.

I think I'm like you, where I prefer being involved in conversations without being at the center of them.

32 sats \ 3 replies \ @Myshkin OP 12 Oct

Thanks for that empathy. That's a nice shortcut for life, sure.

21 sats \ 2 replies \ @Undisciplined 12 Oct

She's very introverted and wanted to figure out an easy way to interact with people.

31 sats \ 1 reply \ @Myshkin OP 12 Oct

Does she manage to deal with the pressure that it creates? I mean, being waterboarded of other's stories means closing yours in a closet.

21 sats \ 0 replies \ @Undisciplined 12 Oct

It's a win-win for her, because she doesn't really want to be open with random people.

21 sats \ 1 reply \ @RoundaboutStacker 12 Oct

You may be experiencing the desperate narcissists who are always looking for fresh supply of attention. The people who might care about you are not going to be sharing sob stories for quick hits of attention.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Myshkin OP 12 Oct

Definitely. I would argue that being flooded by these kind of people hurts my abikity to actually discuss about myself with people i really care about.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Taft 12 Oct

I struggle to engage in discussions where people only focus on themselves and show no interest or empathy towards me. I try not to get involved in situations like that. I don't know if it's good or bad for the other person. But I'm sure it's very good for me.