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99 sats \ 2 replies \ @cryotosensei 22 Sep \ parent \ on: Ek's Irregularities #1 | Clickbait Title mostly_harmless
Thanks for asking! I had loads of fun. The last time I saw him was this May, so it doesn’t feel that long. But yesterday night was the first time we drank together in our 30 years of friendship. Actually he just drank one glass of beer while I finished the rest of the jug - but I think men reach another level in their friendship when they drink together. It loosens one’s inhibitions and you share things you normally wouldn’t.
Also yesterday was a trying n gruelling day handling my toddler, so I was just grateful to get out of the house hahaha. Thank you, wife!
I feel the need to improve my writing too. Trying to incorporate some sort of learning while the real work gets done so that I am more intentional about my word choices. Are you trying to integrate some sort of deliberate practice into your writing too?
I just randomly visited this post again and realized I never submitted this reply, sorry
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but I think men reach another level in their friendship when they drink together
Oh, definitely! That realization lead to a quite depressing period in my life though: Why do we need alcohol as a social lubricant? I then somehow decided that the social acceptance of alcohol is the root of all evil for a few months until a friend brought me back to my senses. I was just really pissed at drug politics and shouldn’t blame people who just like to enjoy drinks. I do wonder though:
It loosens one’s inhibitions and you share things you normally wouldn’t.
What is it that inhibits us? What are we worried about?
Are you trying to integrate some sort of deliberate practice into your writing too?
Mhh, not really structured but I do tend to distinguish different styles of writing now and am more conscious about how I write.
So I think my practice is just being more aware of the ways you can write something.
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I think it’s also cool to reply to a post belatedly because some time will have passed since then, and new developments might have taken place.
Good question, and I was mulling over it yesterday. I think I can only speak for myself personally. I am rather open in regard to divulging my life; some will say that I often overshare haha. But I think what alcohol does is that it helps me to unlock those things I normally won’t think about and express those inchoate feelings into words. Not that I’m consciously trying to suppress anything. It’s just that in the tumult of daily life, there are some truths that I don’t have the inclination to uncover. During a social night, where everyone is half drunk and present in the moment, it affords a chance for us to loosen our tongues.
It’s funny that you replied now, because I have been doing something different these 1-2 weeks. I now record down new vocabulary words on Obsidian and make it a point to use them. inchoate and tumult are two such examples haha. It’s my way of incorporating deliberate practice into my life so that I can experience some growth!
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