I would say "everything is good in moderation" one will drink too much water and will get sick.... For me personally I think it is all in your head, either alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc. If you don't want to quit (for whatever reason) you will not, you will appease people around you (foolish idea) and then you will be back to one own self and get back right to it. So for me, it starts with the man(or woman) in the mirror. Have a talk and start from there... YMMV. Nothing more , nothing less.