That is unfortunate if true, I feel for you and I really want to extend understanding to you. As a woman, I'll take a measure of the offense the group's response is responsible for. But, you did lose me at poly. Help us out with that, how can it work? I'll also say I am a married woman, and the vows I took are sacred. How would I handle it? Just trust my own setup and trust the reasons for it, and don't let anyone know a thing about it.