You can use your extended public key from your hardware wallet to verify your transactions with your full node while still keeping your private key private and offline in your hardware wallet. It’s important to note that if you are using a hardware wallet you are using somebody’s node to verify the transactions so it’s much better practice to use your own.

That's what I have always done too, and for the same reasons. Lately I have come across other opinions. I am also wondering if I'm missing something.

I agree.

I don’t trust my node because I don’t trust my computer.

I actually have two pruned nodes running