10 sats \ 10 replies \ @Bell_curve 12 Jul \ parent \ on: Book Review | “The Four Tendencies” BooksAndArticles
https://gretchenrubin.com/books/the-four-tendencies/
We all face two kinds of expectations—outer expectations (meet work deadlines, answer a request from a friend) and inner expectations (keep a New Year’s resolution, start meditating).
Your response to expectations determines your “Tendency”—that is, whether you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.
Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations—“Discipline is my freedom”
Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense; essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations—“I’ll comply—if you convince me why”
Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves—“You can count on me; and I’m counting on you to count on me”
Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike—“You can’t make me, and neither can I”
Knowing your Tendency can help you set up situations in ways that make it more likely that you’ll achieve your aims.
You can make better decisions, meet deadlines, meet your promises to yourself, suffer less stress, and engage more deeply with others.
Sorry! Should have clarified 😅
I was referring solely to the number four, in the case of sensei specifically, since in the case of japanese culture, to which he is acquainted, the number 4 has a very negative connotation in itself. That's why usually they favour numbers like 5 for this purposes, and avoid the number 4 as much as possible
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8 is lucky number in China
August 8, 2008 opening ceremony in Beijing
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I didn’t know this!
Did you know that 8 sends shudders down the spine for the Germans?
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No idea
That’s a funny phobia
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8 is the 8th letter of the alphabet. 88 means Hail Hilter.
After I learnt this, I tried to tone down my enthusiasm for the number 8 haha
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I know! But number 4 specifically is a different story. In japan at least
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His wife is Japanese but he lives in Singapore 🇸🇬
What is the lucky number in Argentina 🇦🇷
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I know I know, but I assume some cultural traits might be more universal the more mundane
We don't have something like a cultural lucky number here, but there are many superstitions, and the most widespread is the "cabala", which is related to football: if you did or have something specifically the last time your team won, then that's the "cabala", and you ought to repeat it to "help" your team win again. I'm in none of that bs, not even in football, but it's funny to see people doing that so religiously
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Is this why soccer fans wear underwear of a particular colour? Haha
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Yeap. It's the reason for much of the ridiculous behaviour around the sport 🙈
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