Typed Jan Faull’s advice on my Obsidian vault. Some of the things he said resonated with me. Also liked his choice of nouns: proximity control, chore force n stress-proofing. Can’t wait to sprinkle these into my conversations to sound more like I know what I’m doing.
Darn Good Advice Parenting
- Try not to respond the same way each time your children have an argument. You don’t want to become the predictable player in each fight
- Hold your player tongue when a sibling pair is interacting positive. Don’t destroy the moment and disrupt the positive nature of the interaction.
- Encourage your child to come into the bathroom with you. He can hand you toilet paper, and when you’re finished, he can flush the toilet.
- The act of brushing one’s teeth can be deconstructed into 14 steps.
- It isn’t unusual for children to have a meltdown when they get back together with their parents at the end of the day. It’s release after good behaviour. All day kids do their best to manage themselves as best they can. Once home they feel the need to let down or let loose.
- To reduce the chance of your child having a temper tantrum, give her lead time from one activity to the next.
- When your child shifts into high gear with emotion, shift yourself into low gear and move toward your child. Stay by his side for five minutes and say: “You can be as angry as you like. When you’re finished being angry, then you’ll need to complete your homework assignment.”
- Excessive guilt can lead to shame.
- After a visit to the doctor, a toddler needs to reenact the experience.
- Academic discipline occurs when children acquire good study habits related to school work.
- Resilient kids aren’t stoical. When faced with adversity, they respond emotionally, recoil temporarily, and then, more often than not, return to their prior emotional state.
- Children learn to manage their emotions somewhere between eight and twelve and then lose it again through the emotional roller coaster ride of adolescence.
- Teenagers need to release their emotional energy.
- Communicate information they need to hear in sound bites.
- Use proximity control
- Use chore force - it’s a force similar to gravity; no one really likes it, it just happens and we all learn to live with it.
- Employ stress-proofing. Know how much stress is enough and how much is too much for each child. Also work into your everyday routine activities that relax and calm your child.
Crowdsourcing time! What’s one piece of advice you would give to fellow parents?