since coming home from japan, i've already run into some personal hurdles.
one in particular was really difficult to navigate, but i successfully got through it.
something i have understood is that when you encounter difficult territories in your life, you are always going to be in control of how you react. i feel like my past self would've have lashed out and held a grudge for days on end.
this time around, i decided to engage in positive self talk. at first, my mind was babbling with all sorts of emotions since the situation was so new. and the quickest thing i could do to get out of my head, was to say "NO" out loud.
after that, the talking to myself went along the lines of:
"you went through so much shit in japan. if you can handle it out there, you can do it here back at home. the imporant thing is you are breathing, you are alive, and you were able to get through it. now, release it, and have a good rest of your day with your boyfriend because you f*cking DESERVE IT"
and after that, i carried on with my day as happily and as care free as i could.
i guess what i am trying to say is dwelling and sullking on the negative things does not serve you in any way. what happened, happened. and as long as you are still functioning, you have the ability to address and control what comes afterward.
take a deep breath, and a moment to mindfully come back to the present. allow yourself to positively acknowledge your feelings, existence, and ability to figure out what can be done next!
Recently I'm reading a lot on stoicism and topics that are repeated a lot are accept situation that you can't control and you control how you react. I realized it's all a matter of perspective and this will determine how you judge and act. It's difficult to change the thinking, but I noticed that I'm now more aware of this. Before, I couldn't see this.
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Well done! And what doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger, right?
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Rubbing one out can also help with stress, just saying. 👀.
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It's true, our reaction to what happens to us is something we can control, and positive self-talk can make a big difference. I also try to face each day by focusing only on positive thoughts, using motivational phrases to help me. It helps me to chase away negative thoughts and concentrate on the present, turning difficult moments into opportunities to grow and become stronger.
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I resonate with a lot of that. Letting go, release - acknowledging but not dwelling on the negative.
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