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I had an internet-free day yesterday. In many ways, it was lovely. I regained a sense of calmness. Since I know that I can't just "check" something online (which can send me down a dopamine-fueled rabbit-hole), the itch goes away. And the world doesn't end.
However, it's frustratingly difficult to do this. Basically, I just want to reproduce a day of only maybe 25 years ago, where you had a phone, address book, physical calendar, the yellow pages to look up phone numbers, maps, and paper books. And you managed to get through the day, and even thrive, without the constant dopamine hit and distraction of being online.
But there are so many companies out there, making a profit out of our desire for convenience, and our evolution-fueled longing for newness and novelty. And almost everything requires the internet.
At the beginning of the day, doing mundane things like weeding, sweeping, etc. - it felt like deprivation to do these chores without listening to podcasts. It feels like I'm missing a treat. But I've come to believe that disconnecting regularly is critical, for ideas, for calmness, to live as a reasonable human as opposed to a consumer.
The addictiveness of the internet is unfortunately NOT like the addictiveness of cigarettes or alcohol, where it's possible to just STOP cold turkey. You don't NEED either cigarettes or alcohol.
But the internet is like FOOD. Food is different from cigarettes or alcohol in that you must have it. With food, to limit consumption and maintain a healthy weight, you need to come up with rules, a plan, what's okay and what's not okay. And that can be very challenging. The vast majority of people are overweight or obese.
I have a pretty good strategy for food. Even before my carnivore days, I was successful at maintaining a healthy weight. Basically, I ate zero processed food, cooked at home, did restaurants occasionally but no appetizers, bread, or desserts. And I weighed myself very regularly. And that worked.
I'm trying to do something similar with the internet. It's hard to resist, because I must have certain aspects of it. In today's age, almost everyone needs the internet, for all kinds of reasons.
The strategies for cutting back are still being worked out. There's all kinds of productivity apps with which you can limit your time on certain websites. I've tried a bunch of them and am not impressed.
My rules for the digital detox yesterday were - no internet on my main laptop. I did use my laptop to write down some notes, and edit some things. On my phone, I only used phone and text and a mapping app. All the other devices (another laptop, a device to listen to podcasts on) were put away high up in the closet. My old kindle for book reading is fine since I never connect it to the internet.
I did a longish hike to a new area with family, some cooking, lots of sewing, and called family on the phone. It's amazing, how when you do NOT have access to a whole world of addictive information at your fingertips, you become much more aware of your surroundings. You start noticing things.
Here's some of the things I do, that makes a regular digital detox much easier:
  • I'm completely off Google docs. Previously I used them very extensively. That means I have everything I need on my laptop, no internet access needed. I just use mostly text files, and Libre Office Calc/Writer sometimes, and it all works just fine. I can actually do productive things, even though I'm not online. That wasn't true before I got all my info local.
  • I always carry a tiny notebook and pencil in my pocket, to jot things down. It cuts down on stress and lets me relax, because I know I'm not going to forget something important. Often I'm writing down things I want to do when I get online again.
What will I do differently next time?
  • Figure out a better way of turning off the internet on my laptop. I had just cut off network access to the laptop the previous night, but I think it must reset at midnight or something, because it was on in the morning. So I had to fiddle around with it to cut it off. Next time I'll try to turn off the network at the bios level the night before. Or maybe I can do something with the hosts file.
  • Instead of just doing a full day digital detox, I'd like to add a half-day, very regularly - like a couple times a week. It feels like so many days go by when I'm spending MOST of my waking ours in front of a screen of some sort, even when I'm NOT working.
  • Figure out how to use my Graphene phone for this. As I transition to it, I will try to use some of it's functionality (profiles, etc) to make my digital detox easier to "enforce". Right now, as I'm still on my old phone, I'm using a tool called Slim Launcher, which is okay but very easy to bypass.
How about you good folks? Anyone tried a digital detox recently?
I grow increasingly more inspired to do one of those week-long silent retreats. I think it might kill me but if it didn't, I would emerge a god.
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I've been curious about these retreats as well. Anyone you know done one?
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Yes, she said it was life-changing. But she's pretty badass, so I'm not sure how much to take from that endorsement :/
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Fabs 29 Apr
Expand on the "badass" part, please.
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Someone with great courage and an iron will. In other words, braver and more forceful than me, so I'm not sure I would get the same benefits she did. Although I probably need it more, so maybe that would counter-balance it.
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Fabs 29 Apr
You'd become a god by staying put in silence for weeks at a time? Hm. I put many question marks behind that.
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Depends on the person and what is keeping them from godhood.
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It’s hard to wean myself off the Internet because I rely on it to make beer money n every cent counts haha. But I started this habit of reading a physical book while having my breakfast. Previously, I would be posting my hardest on SN haha
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I am sat here, puffing on my vape, thinking about what I can have for tea and online reading this😂 I love how aware you were of your day! How having no internet made you feel and how present and aware you were with yourself and your surroundings. I like to come offline AND off my phone (except for maps when driving). I find that I need the disconnect in order to fully connect. My biggest bug bear with "living" online is that people think that if they send you a message that you should reply instantly! It took me a while to explain to people that I wasn't going to do that and I would reply in my own time. Good luck and keep us updated on how your future un-pluggings go!
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44 sats \ 0 replies \ @nym 29 Apr
Good work, that is always a struggle. You could also try to create an offline space in your home and practice some mindfulness techniques.
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The days I've spent totally away from technology feel great, I can't do this every day, but it's good to do it once in a while, in fact it's been a while since I've used social media.
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Yeah, I'm going to try to get serious about doing partial-day digital detox. No internet, starting at noon. It really resets your mind, in a good way.
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Hustle just got back from a cruise around the Caribbean.
Went a couple days without internet access, he missed the freaks a little bit but that pretty much it.
The only reason hustle uses the internet is for work/bitcoin/nostr for the most part. Although he should probably take a break every once in a while, he hears people get addicted to these sort of things.
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34 sats \ 1 reply \ @Taft 29 Apr
How did you resist an entire internet-free day?
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Ha ha - I knew I wanted to write on Stacker News about it, and honestly that helps!
But seriously - making the thing you want to avoid INCONVENIENT - that's how to do it. "This Is The Way" as DarthCoin would say.
But making the internet inconvenient is a little difficult, because it's getting more convenient all the time.
I wish there were tools like the phone launcher that I used (Slim Launcher) that could make it MUCH harder to access all but a few apps. But even with Slim Launcher, the regular phone apps are just a few clicks away, you just have to make those clicks.
Same with my laptop. Because of the snafu with my network settings getting overwritten, I had to just use airplane mode (which is just a mouse movement and 2 clicks to override).
That's why a little prep is needed. I'm going to figure out how to better restrict internet on my laptop. I'm planning on starting to use my graphene phone as my daily driver, and I think that has a lot more functionality in terms of separate profiles, to separate out different use cases.
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Great post! Exercise in nature will keep your body and mind busy. Make your own path on a trail!
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One more thing - I've enjoyed reading this substack - https://schooloftheunconformed.substack.com/. Lots of articles around dealing with the internet and still being a real human being. Here's a few of my favorites.
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @BTCFC 30 Apr
It's not quite a digital detox per se, however, I have found doing multiple sessions of yoga nidra throughout the day will help me feel rejuvenated and kind of reset my dopamine levels if you will, thus allowing me to enjoy the digital world again without getting that digital fatigue feeling. Although I haven't been as consistent with it as of late, I do find setting a time in the evening say at like 10pm or so as a non negotiable time to completely go offline is a milder form of digital detox, and without a doubt helps with getting better sleep. And then from there you can gradually increase the total time of evening digital detox by say starting 5 minutes earlier every week or what have you, or even just keeping the discipline to always go offline at 10pm will add up over time.
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My cellphone is regularly silent and without internet almost 8 hours a day when I'm awake. To tell you the truth , it was hard for me to initially do it but as they say 'its your habits that decide what you become'— once I formed this habit of cutting from internet, I even don't feel any need of it now...
Your story is really inspiring for those who over excessively use internet and compromise their helth in return of dopamine by information; which is really not essential to know every time.
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re online documents: i've been impressed by https://crypto.fr and will probably host this for myself
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