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Yes, the old tale of "jUsT bE yOuRseLf", lol. It's true but it's often very unhelpful and can make you feel even worse since it sounds so easy. But I think the problem is that people don't know who they are. How should they be themselves when they don't know what that means?
When I think about it there's an additional wrinkle -- it's not just "be whoever you happen to be, you special snowflake" but rather: you are a person with a very distinct configuration, and if you find ways in which that configuration can find a place in the world, nobody will be able to out-you you.
One additional wrinkle, though (there are two wrinkles, apparently) is that you -- whoever you happen to be -- isn't static. You can add things to your self, and refine it. That's the vibe underlying this post, actually -- what is it, exactly, that we should add or change?
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