Excellent post. Spot on.
they're too "nice" to set realistic expectations. That is not kindness. It is in fact a very perverse type of cruelty...
This nice vs kind thing is all over US culture. It is truly hard to find someone that cares enough to be kind. Few have the love required to speak truth in love. Sure there are mean people that speak truth but it can be hard to accept it because they could just be trying to hurt you.
Yes. Despite that whole "be kind" thing that you see on posters and t-shirts everywhere.
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Yep, its BS
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A friend of mine drives this point home with his students. Part of his courses is students presenting material to the class and relying on their feedback for correction. He doesn't weigh in.
He always explains that it's much kinder to correct the presenter than to let them carry on in error. That message really stuck with me.
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It took becoming a parent for me to learn this.
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