How many of those who are insecure seek power over others as a compensation for inadequacy and wind up bringing consequences down upon their heads and those around them?

How many hide out in their lives, resist the summons to show up, or live fugitive lives, jealous, projecting onto others, and then wonder why nothing ever really feels quite right?

How many proffer compliance with the other, buying peace at the price of soul, and wind up with neither?

The capacity for growth depends on one’s ability to internalize and take personal responsibility. If we forever see our life as a problem caused by others, a problem to be "solved," then no change will occur.

These are some brilliant words from James Hollis.