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The risks of being quiet
97 sats \ 8 comments \ @Tef 19 Mar 2024 BooksAndArticles
One of the risks of being quiet is that the other people can fill your silence with their own interpretation: You're bored. You're depressed. You're shy. You're stuck up. You're judgemental. When others can't read us, they write their own story-not always one we choose or that's true to who we are.
— Sophia Dembling, The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World.
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10 sats \ 1 reply \ @0xbitcoiner 19 Mar 2024
I totally agree. I've caught myself doing it too, but I know we can be completely wrong, so we shouldn't give those thoughts too much weight. But why do people have this habit of judging others based on their appearance or neutral behaviors? Is it just curiosity or something more?
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32 sats \ 0 replies \ @Tef OP 19 Mar 2024
Is it just curiosity or something more?
It might be curiosity in some cases, but most of the time it’s because of an evil desire people have to harm others, I think.
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10 sats \ 1 reply \ @Coinsreporter 19 Mar 2024
That's a great read for introverts. Every introvert must read it word by word and it will definitely help them out.
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1 sat \ 0 replies \ @Tef OP 19 Mar 2024
Agreed!
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei 24 Mar 2024
I don’t have a problem with this. On the contrary, I’m loud haha
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0 sats \ 2 replies \ @kytt 19 Mar 2024
This assumes you care what random people think of you - or anyone for that matter. You should always be yourself. You should never try to change yourself based on others perceptions. That is a psychological recipe for disaster.
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Tef OP 19 Mar 2024
I’m not sure if this is the point of the above quote.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @kytt 19 Mar 2024
That's how I read it. The quote seems to be saying that people may apply negative descriptors to someone who is quiet. Why should one care what others may perceive you to be without speaking to you? It feels like the quote is almost encouraging the reader to develop a people-pleasing attitude because somehow "being quiet is bad".
Again, my interpretation.
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