Do you think you are depressed? Is sounds to me like you are, at best, stuck in a funk or, at worst, stuck down a depression hole. I've been to both places many times and here's my take. Either way, often there's not much other people can do to help with "ideas / suggestions", especially if the person in the funk/depression bats these off with a thousand "buts" or consults the Guinness book of excuses. They have a problem for every solution. Besides, not knowing the finer details of your life and what you're into, I'm hard-pressed to come up with ideas. I've been there myself and I just left a friend to herself, after years of negativity. I spent around 25 years giving to other people and putting myself last and, now I'm just coming out of that period, I am having to reinvent / find myself again. I have felt many many different emotions (believe me!). I don't drink alcohol or use any other psychoactive substance either, so I have had to "feel" and "deal" with every single emotion and it's tough lol. What it takes is a complete shift in mindset that only the person is in control of. Sometimes you have to feel "max pain" before you can "rise from the ashes" as it were. I don't know if any of that is helpful. Sorry if it seems blunt lol, I've got to a stage in life where sugar-coating is becoming more of a challenge. Other than that, you could try finding a good counselor and/or life coach. Or simply do the work yourself, if you can.