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21 sats \ 3 replies \ @Bell_curve 28 Feb \ parent \ on: What are your hopes for your children? meta
My thinking and my experience
As far as teaching resilience, how effective? I doubt you can teach someone to be resilient. Can you teach someone to be mentally tough? Unlikely
I think someone can teach another to be mentally tougher!
The military, especially elite forces, apply training techniques that make their guys mentally tougher. I admit that to get to that level, there is a degree of criteria of mental toughness needed as a prerequisite, but I would argue that they weren't that mentally tough at age 10 or 15. They had to develop it.
Some of the techniques that they use:
- Extreme Physical Training
- Stress Inoculation
- Visualization and Mental Rehearsal Exercises (I remember reading a great article about how firefighters deal with fear and panic, and how visualization exercises help them overcome it)
- Breathing Techniques (box breathing comes to mind)
- Adversity Training
- Goal Setting
- Team Bonding
- After-Action Reviews (basically debriefs that allow them to metacognitively improve)
A more grounded or close-to-home example might be running with a friend. Helping that friend, who is exhausted, to make a goal a bit further (just get to the mailbox) and then to extend that goal (now to the end of the block) and so on--that is helping them learn to chunk a difficult task into tasks that seem more manageable. Getting them to recognize that voice inside their head that says that they can't, and then helping them do it anyway--that shows them the difference between self-talk and actual ability.
I would be interested to know @brandonsbytes's thoughts on this. I think he's done some pretty intense training that required him to take his mind/body to the next level.
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I just got inspired by you to send the following message to my dancers to prep their minds for a school performance next Fri. Thanks mate
Morning!
The training is tough, but the end is near.
Positive visualisation
Imagine yourself slaying the dance moves with a gigantic smile on your face. This will increase the fun factor!
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What is the military treatment for ptsd ?
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