have a read of the Federalist Papers to get a sense of how tremendously disinterested they were in having anything other than a cohesive union on the continent.
can you imagine if California was suddenly divorced from the federal system, and simultaneously very pleased to outsource their policing and monetary policy to the Chinese ? next thing you know, they're letting the Chinese military build an air base and a naval base and a troop Baracks, and then suddenly poof... Nevada is Chinese territory.
my point is: civil war might be better than dissolution of the union.
best bet is, and I've come full circle on this as I've moved through the thinking on it, voting ourselves out of this bullshit & into a tolerable relationship with the other states.